The idea sounds great.. Graduate college.. Fall in love.. Move out together get married have kids. But it's becoming less and less popular for a reason today. I literally see no benefit in marriage. Long term serious relationships of course but marriage.. No thank you.
Most Helpful Guy
Marriage was never meant for love it's for survival. My ex and my grandmother inadvertently taught me that. My ex's mom has been remarried 3 times. I'm not gonna go into too much detail but I will tell the story of the first time I met most of my exes family. It was Christmas. I was suppose to meet my ex's mom and brothers. Instead I met them plus her mom's fiancé, her ex step dad, my ex's dad's ex-wife and thier son, with a few short and abrasive phone calls from her dad. Long story short lots of anger, yelling, sadness, and fake smiles and bad jokes aimed at me to cut the tension. Add in the fact that we were an interracial couple which was a first for everyone their, in Alabama. Yeah it was... energetic. Everyone expected all of that to bother me but it didn't. Because to me it was just part of being a family. I was more shocked that this was a family that had unresolved issues from months, sometimes years, ago. Which leads me to my grandma.
My grandmother was placed in a mental health institution due to schizophrenia and Alzheimer's. She died when I was 4 so I can't really remember anything about her. But I know my grandfather stayed married to her through it all and went on to continue raising their 10 kids. So that was proof to me that the right two people together can make almost anything work. My grandfather had cancer about 5 years ago and ever since then at least one of my aunts and uncles or my mom has been at his house taking care of him. The reason my exes Christmas was so easy for me is because my mom's family christmases had 50+ people in one house every year. There's more people at my grandpas house to watch "scandal" on Tuesday's than there was at that Christmas. Most of my family that is of age for marriage is married and very few have been divorced. And that numbers just going up. My family doesn't treat marriage like a Disney story. It's more like signing up for the army. Family is suppose to come with the benefits of safety, assistance, love, etc. and marriage used to be about the extension and maintainence of family. Think back to Native tribes, noble houses, the freakin mob for Christ sakes. They were large extended families. The rothschilds, the Rockefellers, the Waltons, all families. Having a large permanent dependable network of support is essential for getting a leg up in a world that's built off of loose corporate contracts. And marriage is the delicate but necessary staple to keep things going. And a bad marriage will kill it0
Most Helpful Girl
You have to pay less taxes if you get married but that's all. Unless you want children, marriage isn't really that important in my opinion.3