Yes and no. I was sort of involved with a girl who was sexually assaulted by a relative of hers at a young age and it affected her. She has always had trouble keeping relationships. She's felt her only worth was through sex when, in reality, she's a smart young women with a bright future ahead of her. I always told her that with the utmost sincerity and she doubted me every time and it was exhausting. After doing some research, I found this to be somewhat common.
Not every guy will run away if he finds out that his girlfriend or a girl he's dating went through this. Some might not even know how to take it. But the important thing is, you be honest with him and if he truly cares for you, he won't care about that. He'll make do what it takes to earn your trust and build a strong, healthy relationship with you.
One of my friends told me she had been twice before, we weren't in a relationship or anything but we were still pretty close. I'm a very accepting person so I certainly didn't think less of her for it. It's not like it was her fault, so why should I be mad at her for it? It took her a lot of courage to tell me those things as she doesn't normally talk about it, but really I guess it just made us even closer in the end?
Some guys will probably not like it, but in my opinion those guys aren't worth your time.
Not at all. I don't know how I'd react if she did one of those 'cringe' things you sometimes hear assault/rape victims do, if she were touched by me, however. It would depend on how much she could try to relax her tenseness, but I'd have no problem if it showed gradual progress. by the way my two nieces were almost assaulted by their step-father, and my sister (who caught him in the act) and I were seriously thinking about doing him grave bodily harm, but it was such a notorious thing around the neighborhood, we did nothing except get the cops to charge him, and she filed for divorce. They are fine. My family also adopted a girl whose own father had molested her other sister, and the molested sister totally got over any mistrust of men; and our adoptive sister never really mistrusted men, just that particular asshole. Believe me some men are putzes and don't want to deal with your issue and wouldn't date you, but who would want such an insensitive person to begin with?
If it happened more than once, I would wonder if they were actually rapes or if she had carelessly placed herself in a position that made the result much more likely. Most rape victims become hypervigilant after their first assault and are particularly on guard to make sure it doesn't happen again.
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