For the first time ever I recently slept with a girl on the first date and it now feels like I can never go back to, lets wait until the 3rd date or just a kiss on the first date. The truth is that you know if you want to sleep together within the first 10min of the first date. I feel so much closer to this woman so much sooner than all my other previous dates and it just feels so much more natural. I mean I'm going on a date to test drive this person so to speak. So if we really click why not test drive how sexually compatible we are?
Have done it, good idea
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Have done it, bad idea
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Have never done it, would do it
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Have never done it and don't plan on ever doing it
Just an update. This girl and I had our second date last weekend and it went extremely well (the best date I've ever been on). We're seeing each other this upcoming weekend as well. By the looks of it we're going to end up in a relationship :).
I don't consider it good or bad, it's just up to the people involved and how they want to go about it.
Personally, I'm not comfortable sleeping with someone on the first date. I can be very attracted to a guy, and we can click perfectly, but if the level of trust, familiarity, and care isn't established yet, which it can't really be on the first date if we've just met, since those things take time, then it feels too soon to be that intimate with the person. I wouldn't feel ready to take part in it no matter how much I like the guy.
Generally girls lie about their past but realistically Id say like most girls have had sex on the first date before. So if a girl was making me wait a month I'd just feel like I wasn't as attractive as the guys who she slept with sooner. Id wonder "why was she so excited to sleep with that guy she met at the club and for me i have to wait a month?"
So I'd prefer sooner rather than later. I'd want to make sure she's clean of stds first so maybe within the first week of dating would be ideal for me.
The guys they sleep with right away are the guys they are excited to have sex with. The guys who have to wait months are the ones they are only kinda attracted to.
Id prefer to be in the group of guys who she was MOST excited to sleep with.
It's not something I'd do, but I think everyone has the right to establish what's 'right' or 'wrong' for their own particular situation.
If you want to have sex on the first date, go ahead. Whatever floats your boat. However, do know that doing that will establish the vibe of the relationship from the go. Sure it can change, go back and forth between focused on sexual needs to more emotional but sex on the first date or early on does send a message that the physical is important. In some cases, that may be all the other came to get, hence why so many girls tend to withhold sex till they know they've 'got the guy' in more way than just that one. To weed out those with the 'fuck & chuck' mindset.
I slept with a guy on the first date, but I think you should base whether you are gonna sleep with someone on if you're both ready. Maybe she's ready to fuck on the first date, that's fine; but it should also be okay if she's not. Never push/force a girl to have sex, whether you've been on 1 date or 4.
My boyfriend and i got pretty close to doing it the first night, we had known each other for years so there was lots of tension, he ended up stopping it before it happened though because he wanted to make me feel like he wanted me for more than just sex. Which was good because i probably wouldn't be with him if we would have had sex..
I wouldn't ever do it. It takes more than a date to get to know someone and establish an emotional connection with them. I've never had sex but I would imagine that you are extremely vulnerable. I'd have to really trust and be comfortable with someone before having sex with them and I don't think a few hours is enough time to do so.
I think it is neither good or bad. What matters is where you both stand on the issue and whether you both don't want anything more. It would be kind of unfair to pressure the girl (presumably) into early sex in return for promises for a relationship when in reality it's never gonna happen and you're just gonna string her along.
Well there was a mytake where a girl slept with a guy at her office on the first date and got labelled the office slut in 24 hrs. I think people should gauge the person better before the willingly share themselves with someone they barely know.
It's not a good idea to randomly fall asleep during your first date
"Do you think sleeping on the first date is good or bad?" Bad idea. You will find out more about the girl if you stay awake.
What others do is none of my business as long as it's not affecting me (and I hope no one else) but I personally wouldn't do it, even for a quick lay. I'm over the wham, bam, thank you ma'am days and would rather try to build a relationship. I met a girl online, got to know her for months and eventually met her in another state. We hit it off and had sex. The sex complicated things and now we don't talk to each other anymore. So While it wasn't a first date (we saw each other for 4 days), it still was too soon even though we were really into each other.