hello. I've been seeing a guy for 4 years now. Its had its ups and downs. There has been issues before, mainly innapropriate texting with other women, he came clean and we moved passed it and things have been very good for the last 2 years.
he's not a very avid facebook user, maybe goes on once ina while to check, doesn't post anything. About a month ago i noticed he seemed a little distant, he just said works been stressfull so i left it alone. But what i have noticed is that he's been going on facebook very frequently, as in every hour, even all through the middle of the night, non stop for the past month. Once again he's not posting anything or even likeing anyones posts or pictures or even commenting so i just though it was a little weird.
I brought it up to him and he immediatly got deffensinve and said he's not talking to anyone at all. He ignored me for 2 days, all while still on facebook.
first thing in the morning he used to message me , now he's no facebook and gets to me maybe an hour later. The other day i messaged him good morning and and got no response. I could see that he was on and off facebook the whole day and when he finally did message me back lat in the afternoon he just said "sorry work was busy". I find it strange that he was so busy but he had time to be on facebook off and on for hours before just getting back to me.
Something is just off about it.
Even the last time he was here, he kept his phone in his jacket pocket as apposed to right next to the bed as he ususally does. He stays up later than i do and i noticed when i woke up that morning at 6am while he was still asleep, that his facebook said he was active just 2 hours ago, so i guess while i was sleeping he was on it as well.
The only thing i can think of is that he's talking to someone. What else would he be doing all day and night if he's not posting or anything else.
Am i being paranoid?
Most Helpful Guy
I don't really trust the Facebook apps to be reliable in any way shape or form, not least of all indicating whether someone is or was online recently.0
Most Helpful Girl
The red flag is in the first paragraph and the fact that you are asking this question after FOUR YEARS with this man.
At fours years you should be committed, in love and talking about marriage given your age. If you are having these kinds of doubts it is time to go. But I guess it all depends if you are okay with being cheated on or not. Either way even if you are okay with it he won't and doesn't love and appreciate you as you deserve to be. If it were me I would find a better match. Sorry to be harsh. Best0