The question says it all. It's a common belief that women tend to date men who are 'above' them in general, whereas men prefer dating women who are 'below' them. Well, not exactly 'above' and 'below', but I don't know how else to put it here.
So is this actually a 'norm', which very few people tend to break? Because in my personal experience, this has indeed been true most cases.
I'd like to tweak that statement... Men generally prefer equal or lower Women generally prefer equal or higher
I do think this is true but with a fair amount of exceptions. :) This trend probably has a lot to do with what is instinctual to both sexes when it comes to attraction. Women want providers, men want feminine.
I can't really say about other women since I don't know every women in the world.
When ever i dated guys I never really paid attention to that. Though I guess looking back most of the guys i dated either had the same looks as me or a little down. Until I met my current boyfriend which I think he's 10 times hotter than me, lol. Though personality wise we are on the same level. He's just more logical than I am. :D
Age wise I've noticed I get along better with guys that are a little bit younger than me.
Wow I don't know if you guys noticed but all the girls voted no and all the guys voted yes :D I would actually say it depends on the age group. More girls in high school date under them but once they're older tend to try and aim higher. A trend I've noticed in guys is that at first (ie high school) they tend to only look at the appearance so they try to date as high as possible, but as they mature they realize that other things are more important and looks are no longer a priority.
I just couldn't find a good looking guy who spoke 4+ languages and had a PhD degree in a STEM major... Who was also very funny, extremely well read and well travelled. Cuz that would be me dating up... You know...
Great question! I'm one of the few that goes for what I perceive as my equal. This causes loads of problems though because I'm an independent and career driven guy and I'm attracted to the same type of girl, but our personality types make meeting eachother nearly impossible due to us being busy all the time. Because of this I have had to "date down" but it doesn't work. I'm not satisfied with someone that's not on my level.
I date down always :( haven't met a girl who, can offer as much as me all round, the few i have usually date up, so i have no choice but to date down, its so hard to find a girl who's single and on my level