So there is a group of friends I became a part of a year ago, lots of guys, lots of girls. Now there was this one girl that I ended up really liking so I asked my guy friends for advice. Turned out these guy friends were complete idiots and gave me terrible advice, and I ended up coming off as a jerk who didn't have any respect at all, always being mean to her and saying terrible things because my friends said it would work. Well, that obviously didn't go well.
She ended up getting really mad at me and we didn't talk for a few months. Over the course of time, I ended up having a crush on ANOTHER girl in the same group. This stayed for few months and I slowly became friends with the first girl again. (let's call her A) Something came up and there was this huge drama that happened, and I ended up getting rejected by the second girl too (call her B now.)
I didn't have any romantic feelings for anyone for a while after that. B never spoke to me again, while I became really close with A. And the thing is, I've started to really admire A again, and now that I'm actually who I am, not some bad boy because "girls like bad boys," I just feel like I've lost every chance because I will always be known as, pardon my french, an asshole in her eyes.
I really do regret that because the way I acted while I was trying to impress her back then was the complete opposite of who I actually am. No, I do not make fun of people's flaws constantly. No, I do not obnoxiously insult her at every opportunity.
It sucks knowing that I probably have shattered all chances with this kind and beautiful person who is just pure joy to be around, one who I genuinely can relate to and am close friends with now because of how badly I acted my first time around.
So... to girls, what would you think if you were A?
Most Helpful Girl
I would just like for you to be honest with me, if I were her. Tell her everything. How you had a crush on her, that you got absolutely terrible advice, that it's not who you really are, that you're sorry for acting like an ass and that you're now being your true self. It might take her a while to warm up to you still, but being completely honest with her will most likely help her regain some trust for you. Babysteps.2
Most Helpful Guy
Somehow let her know, that when it comes to romance, you try to control yourself, you become defensive you say harsh word, and act like a contract freak, it's normal for people especially girls who aren't Confident.. She might understand and send her this link
Might help it..0