I think that lots of women are so impossible with guys, with these ridiculious standards. Yeah, a guy has to play his cards right not to come off like a douche, I get that and I know what the red flags are. However, some women take this to an extreme with crap like 'he has to pay for so many dates,' 'he has to ask you out immediately for the 2nd date,' blah blah blah.
This is kind of retarded. And what you read in a book does NOT always apply to the real world. I sure hope some of the girls here realize that as long as we treat each other like PEOPLE instead of following some dumb manual, we'll all be better off.
What a breeze of fresh air. Wonderful to hear this from a woman your so right and thank you for pointing it out. Here in the UK we've named it. Princess syndrome I've all so heard it call Brat too. I don't think there are to many women like this but it's actually very much to do with upbringing. Most are usually very dotted on by pendants especially fathers and then expect their men to give the same or more to them.
Because women are brainwash by media which tells them that they should not settle for less but anything that perfect.
Many media outlets put into little girls brains when they are young that relationships revolve around men pleasing them, and never ask what they have to bring to the table outside of spreading their legs for the relationship.
Many social media outlets have inflated women ego to new heights. Now they can get 100,000 of random guys telling them they are perfect/liking their pictures consistently on a day to day basis. That kind of feedback really inflate man women's egos into thinking their perfect goddess.
I must stress that men are equally as bad with their books, I remember being suckered into the PUA stuff, I even tried some moves in a night club and failed spectacularly. I find I have had more success when I have minimized the amount of rules I have in placed and do you want to know a shocking fact? Since I treat women like humans and don't try and impress them I have attracted some women. It's bloody amazing this common sense stuff it really is. If only I discovered it a long time ago. PUA, what a load of tom foolery.
I agree with you. Lots of women do seem to have completely unrealistic standards. The way I see it is these women are actually doing men a favour in a way because if they are like this now they will be like this during the entire relationship so men are getting to see the red flags right at the start. All I can say about women that do this is don't come complaining to me that you are single because no men will date you because I will have no sympathy for you. I agree what you read in a book does not alway apply to the real world. Cosmo for example is just full of shit, feeding young girls all the wrong messages about men. The only thing a Cosmo is useful for in my opinion is to wipe your ass with once you have taken a shit. People need to realise that every single situation is different so there will not be one solution fits all relationships rule.
I think its funny because these same women are the ones who will spread their legs on the first date for some guy they met at the club or on tinder, but then they turn around and act like this prize that needs to be won.
I think some girls are just following outdated "rules." As an older woman, I have seen the rules change.
In the past, it was acceptable to be courted. The woman generally didn't make as much money, morals were a bit different and chasing a guy was frowned on. The guy was expected to pay as he generally was the one working, he was expected to call and ask for dates because the phone was the only source of communication there was.
Now, with the advent of texting and social media, online dating, and women who are much more independent, things have changed. The "gender roles" no longer apply as they once did, and there should be a balance financially since women work as well as well as communicating since it is so easily done now.
Girls should step up and start taking responsibility in dating. The days of waiting for Johnny to call are over.