It sometimes does... like if you've never told her after a while of spending time with her... or if you have this instant connection and things are already really romantic between you, but I think a lot of guys, myself included, are frustrated that things aren't more straightforward.
It's important to make clear i think because as I see it there are five or so types of guys in terms of getting girls...
The cad who says sexual things to a girl and is very smooth and gets a lot of resistance which he stays confident through and the girl eventually starts to want him after he's chased for a while.
The boy next door who gets a long really well with the girl until she develops a crush on him too and then he makes the move in a polite but brave manner.
The shyer guy who waits for a girl to want him. sometimes he'll put himself in situations like theater classes where he can meet girls more easily without having to approach them really.
The party guy who uses charisma and "pure fun" to his advantage--girls want to go to parties to dance drink and have fun... this guy is the center of the fun and therefore he gets the girls.
the pseudo celebrity... he's just been with a lot of pretty girls and has a lot of male friends or he's well known and well respected at the office--basically he's an "alpha male" for lack of a better term for the mere fact that everyone believes he is.
A lot of guys feel it's wrong to be a cad and yet they don't want to be any of the other types and don't feel it's worth the work... they just want to be like hey you're really beautiful and make it that straightforward. We all know that is doesn't work, but my questions is, specifically, what's so bad about that that seems to get such poor responses?
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for me personally, it will work when i know it means something coming from that person. like if it's a compliment they dont throw around. there are people though who will just compliment you like a piece of furniture... and for me that doesn't work.0