Okay so I finally decided to ask my friend out on a date. We had a thing in the past where we almost dated but something got in the way. So now we're just friends. But I said screw it because we are supposed to hang out anyway so I just asked him if he wanted to make it a date. I told him I just wanted to test the waters and wanted to know if he was up to it.
And basically he told me that he doesn't like to put a label on things and just sees it as a chance for us to hangout, talk and get to know each other more. When I asked him what he meant exactly he told me to take it how I wanted.
So? I'm confused? Is this just going to be a friend thing? Or?
Most Helpful Guy
So what he is basically saying is that he wants to make it a completely casual (non-laballed) hang out. By "get to know each other more" I think he is saying that there is a definite opportunity for things to slowly progress into more if both of you feel a vibe. So basically its a date but he wants to keep it not a date so its casual hahaha. I've been on the date you are about to go on with my female best friend so I know how you feel! Me and her are still best friends and we are glad we went out at least a few times officially and mutually deciding we are meant to be friends not lovers hahaha. Since you both know each other already this is not like a normal date because your goal is to feel in the moment if you could see being romantic with this person (since you already know a lot about them). See how you feel one on one in the moment with him, if you feel a spark of attraction then I would suggest escalating things. From a girls point of view this normally means showing traditional flirty signs like touching him more, leaning towards him while you talk to escalate intimacy. Anything to give him the opportunity to make the first move on you. But from your post it sounds like you are a women of action so maybe you want to make the 1st move yourself, its up to you!! If its meant to be it will be, good luck!!!1
Most Helpful Girl
You know one another as Friends from the past so this is a good start anyways.
However, Now with 'We had a thing in the past' that may have been not such a Blast, he is willing to 'Hangout' for now, not be committed to slap any title on anything and see where it Might go as you both try and make it flow, only Slower this time.
He is Testing these waters himself and of course doesn't want to get knee deep where you and your friendship will sink again.
I believe that for the moment, yes, he wants you both as friends, and maybe if things start to really sizzle better this time around, he could want More in store.
Nothing in life is a sure thing but death and taxes and many things are a Gamble... Especially friends and where it might lead with a planted seed.
Good luck. xx1