Christian men and women here's a scenario : there's a christian girl who falls for a guy unknowingly the guy is a pagan (but she finds out a few months later into their relationship) he shows her lots of love and put her well being befor his own and there's a slight chance he could maybe convert stay or leave
Christian men and women What should she do?
What Guys Said 17
I dated a Reform Jew for a while... Some seeds may have been planted for the gospel, but the relationship did not pan out. I won't tell you unequivocally to leave, but I will say that the romantic relationship will make it harder to tell if, in the event that he decides to become a Christian, his decision is a sober one or just an expedient to keep the relationship rolling. As long as he remains pagan, you will always be torn between your commitment to Christ and your commitment to the boy. In short, to be a Christian romantically involved with a non-Christian is to live in the Garden of Gethsemane. Something good might come out of it, but it will take a lot out of you and is generally not advisable.2
Converting does not make one a believer at all.
The difference between you two are too fundamental to just ignore. Eventually, something will break.3
O dear talk about a slap of Déjà vu to the face, you should leave, and do it immediately.4
The whole thing about being unevenly yoked (2 Corinthians 6:14) is for the Christian's benefit... your faith may suffer as a result of beginning a relationship with him (is he actually a pagan, being an unbeliever, or the contemporary definition of a pagan, being someone who actively worships other gods, nature, etc)?2
I would say that the christian girl stays in the relationship. The guy seems really caring and probably worth it. Also what is the problem if he is pagan? People should care about the person not the religion he believes in. And also why should the guy convert and not the girl? By the way I am not a christian.1
Is it that important to you that he converts? What, are you using yourself as "bait" to convert a guy and save his soul?
Who cares if he's pagan. Does he treat you nice? Make you feel like a lady?
You can find a lot of Christian guys who would not treat you so well.1
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I don't see why he would have to convert, it is your religion not his.1
Life is too short.1
What exactly is meant with the "pagan" used here? Is he just a general non-believer or is he part of the Neo-Pagan religion (with the incantations, "opening the circle" for the God and Goddess, etc.)?0
I'll never understand this. .. what do most people talk about before they date and 'fall' for someone? ... nothing?
It's a problem because the majority of the conversations you had were empty and small talk. No offense but i feel that's still the case now. . even with this fact.2
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I'm tending on thinking she should leave, as that will cause big issues later.
I was once married to a Jewish woman who put down my belief in the Rapture, and Jesus as the Messiah. It can get messy with a mismatch.2
if he doesn't convert and begin christian life, leave.3
What Girls Said 6
If the basis on the relationship is the hope of the guy converting then it is hopeless.
I've been after romantic prospects and have had to cut things off because we were not morally compatible. They said they would change, go to church more, become a believer. But you can't force that upon somebody. And it's easy for them to lie or pretend if they're really that desperate to maintain a romantic relationship.
But, if you are willing to accept that persons beliefs and have an interfaith relationship that is a different story. But still, in my experience that comes with many problems.2
the question here would be how on earth she found out he's a pagan after a few months?
i would have advised her to take her time getting to know this guy. anyway, if he's willing to convert that's fine but i've never liked the idea of someone changing their beliefs for me, even though it is nice of them.1
Why not just stay freinds with benefits? Oh right, no benefits allowed😔
I feel bad for you guys.0
Leave. You shouldn't be unequally yoked. It would only lead to tension in the long run.2
leave, the bible talks about being unequally yolked and God made a man for you hopefully you are wise and choose a Christian man missionary dating is dumb and foolish you probably think, I can change him with my love, but that's not true2
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