My best friend said im breaking "girl code" if i date anybody she ever dated... while me on the other hand wouldn't care if she dated any my ex's they my ex for a reason... i dont want them no more... so what do y'all think? (goes for both sex)
It can be wrong because a person can think you wanted their ex when they were together. I can say if she wasn't treating him right and he's a good man then, she shouldn't have anything to say. If that's the case, maybe she can learn something on how to keep a good man.
If you're talking "girl code", then I guess I can't help you much. In general though, I would say it may depend. But usually it should be okay. After all, just because it didn't work out with your friend doesn't mean he needs to be cast off of everyone your friend knows.
if i was limited to dating only the people none of my friends had gone out with, i'd only be able to date, like, two people. not really, because I only have one friend and she hasn't dated that many people, but my point is that especially as you get older, the dating pool will dwindle if you don't date any of your friends' exes. why should it matter, though? unless she still wants him (or whatever pronouns you prefer) and still has feelings for him, then you should respect that and stay away from him (or her), but otherwise I say go for it.
Here's why it's wrong. Because your friend isn't okay with it. If your friend was okay with it then go ahead but if you value your friendship more then the possibility of a romance with there ex then don't cross that line. Personally it would seem awkward to date a friends ex. Especially if they had a bad break up. And just like another user said it kind of seems like you had your eye on the ex while they were in a relationship with your friend.
Yes it's entirely selfish. I saw your reply to the guy who got mho and it looks like you can't feel empathy towards her (you said that you wouldn't be able to relate). Which still doesn't change how wrong it is.