You ever meet a person off a dating site, who was nice and had a good personality but you ended up not having any physical attraction to them (mainly due to misleading pictures) but kept seeing them because they were nice and you didn't wanna hurt their feelings?
I've done this with a few girls in the past few years and honestly it's a waste of time and very counterproductive. I mean I'm not leading these people on intentionally or have any malicious intent. It's just tough because when they're very interested and you get along fine, you're worried you'll hurt their feelings but after doing this a few times, I learned to just let them know that I'm just not feeling it and let them down nicely without insulting them.
It's been unfortunate because the ones I liked didn't like me back and cut off contact with me after first dates, not all the time but most, and the ones I didn't like back would constantly contact me and I just wasn't feeling it hence the guilt. I'd also like to add that settling with someone you do not like whether it's a lack of physical attraction or emotional connection, DOES NOT make you happier than being alone. It's like sure I'm seeing someone but could care less. That's not how dating should be.
Most Helpful Girl
I'd rather someone was honest with me than , even if it hurt me. I prefer to know where i stand with someone, then i can work at moving on from them.
Settling means you are saying " yes" to others while saying " no" to yourself. Relationships are meant to bring both people happiness. I'd take waiting over settling anyday.0
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Most Helpful Guy
I totally understand the place you are coming from in this question. I think that a lot of people start dating and feel like they have to keep sticking with somebody because they will have a hard time finding someone else, they don't want to hurt the other persons feelings (especially right before they start dating), and many other options depending on the situation. I think a lot of people who have on going relationships need to listen to your advice and really ask if they are with this person because they truthfully like the relationship and have a lot of strong positive emotional and sexual desire for this person or if they don't really have a lot of passion and they are just with them because there is no one else better for you to go after at the moment. I agree with you that living the single life is better then being in a relationship that really isn't working out whether it be because there is no sexual attraction or you don't connect emotionally and every reason in between.0
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