I tried tell my girlfriend to quit smoking but she does not listen to me. I tried yelling at her to stop but nothing. I even told her she going to end up looking ugly, she got all emotional after that. This morning she had like 5 cigarettes on the table and i threw them out, she got mad ans slapped me.
I hate smoking and she started like 2 months ago cause her friend started. Smoking is a huge pet peeve. So how can she stop smoking and does she owe me an apology? I truly love her but ever since she began smoking we have not been good. Like for example she wanted to smoke and it was raning so i old her to go outisde in the rain (with my umbrella) to smoke.
What can be here?
Most Helpful Girl
Both of you were wrong.
It's one thing to not like someones personal possessions, but it's another thing to throw them out.
You don't have that right!
Your girlfriend was not right in her response as well,
It's never okay to put your hands on someone else.
I disagree with both of your actions.
I also disagree with the fact that you are trying to control your girlfriend.
I understand you dislike her smoking, but she is the person that has to make the decision to stop.
You can tell her a whole bunch of things about how smoking is bad for her... you can talk until your jaws get tired... but she will still smoke.
Nothing you do or say will make her stop.
Once you get this, then things will be easier for you (in the sense that you don't always have to fight and bicker).
You are at the point in your relationship where either you
A) Accept that she is a smoker (you don't like it, but deal with it because she has to change on her own).
B) Break up with her (because this a huge deal breaker for you).
You have to understand that, "You can lead a horse to the water but you can't make him drink".
The only person in control of their actions is themselves.2
Most Helpful Guy
She had the right to be pissed but not to slap. You have to understand the addiction to cigs. I've talked to method and crack addicts that recovered and both have said cigs were by far harder to quit. She could try vapor cigs but if she won't do that you're fighting a losing battle. The addiction is stronger than her love for you0