I've gained 8 pounds and he is always sizing me up, feeling my sides, measuring my legs with his fingers. I think he does it so I will realize I'm getting fat and work out more but it has the opposite effect. It makes me feel so uncomfortable, unlovable and skip workouts because I figure what's the point so I continue to gain.
Before we were dating I worked out for a couple of hours or more 5 days a week. I've lost a lot of muscle tone, have less time to work out because I would never see him if I worked out like I used to. Also he really likes to eat and women who can cook so I cook a lot more and things I didn't used to eat.
I mo don't even want to have sex anymore because he makes me feel so unattractive. Why do some men do this? I love him but I don't know if this relationship is good for me anymore.
i also know that if I were to breakup with him over this it isn't going to help my self esteem or help me get back to working out more. I will feel so completely disposable and like any relationship can be ruined by gaining a little weight.
Most Helpful Guy
Take the word doormat off your forehead and tell him to fuck off. My ex got the same treatment off of her boyfriend when she was younger. Made her do sit ups and skip meals all the time and she just let him walk all over her. She found out later he was fucking about behind her back and she was gutted. He's got no respect for you and when a person doesn't respect you they'll do anything to you and not give a monkeys fuck how you feel. He's only interested in how you reflect on him in public. Bet he watches you like a hawk when your out in the pub and tells you who to talk to. He's a controller. Trust me I'm a man myself and I know guys that are that paranoid they don't let their girlfriends breath. My dad was like that and my mum ended up a ghost for most of her life with depression. Stick up for yourself or leave before he flushes your personality down the toilet1
Most Helpful Girl
Have you told him how he's making you feel? Start there. In all likelihood, he'll realize what a twat he's being and try to encourage you to work out in a more positive way.
If he's aware of how awful he's making you feel and is doing it on purpose, you need to next that loser. You deserve better.1