We found out that I am pregnant 3 days ago and since then there has been very little conversation between the 2 of us. He has all but shut down completely. The only thing he really says is "I love you" and "God wouldn't put in front of us anything that we could not handle." This was unplanned and rather unexpected (I was on birth control) so its taken us both by surprise.
My question is how can I make this any easier on him. He has made it clear that he wants to keep the baby but he hasn't told me why he has become mute. I'm sure it has something to do with how unexpected this truly was and he simply doesn't know how to take it. Is there anything I can do to make this transition easier and less stressful? I'm adapting well enough and am becoming more excited with the passing day. So far, the only thing he said he is excited about it telling our other children because they have spoken frequently about wanting another baby around. I think that one of our main concerns about this is his mother. We want to keep it a secret for at least a month due to her reactions. When we had our daughter his mother bashed us all over social medias saying that our daughter was a mistake and it never should have happened.
Anyways, any advice you can give me is very appreciated!
Most Helpful Guy
Generally guys who want to be fathers are a lot more scared about having a child than the girls are. Probably has to do with the internal pressure of having to provide at all times.1
Most Helpful Girl
He's probably just stressing out and trying to work through it. Give him some time and everything will sink in for him and then he'll go back to normal.1