I mean, I have a really cool job where I have plenty of opportunity to go to cool places and meet cool people and hot girls, problem is it really doesn't pay well, I can barely survive after paying for my house and all my basic expenses, so I don't know how I can have any kind of relationship with girls if I can barely pay for myself, I imagine I can't even go out on dates or dinner with them because I simply know I don't really have the money to spend on unnessary stuff.
There are a lot of people giving you advise like: "yeah girls are expensive" (mostly males). From a woman's point of view though I don't think it really matters. If you get into a relationship with a woman who expects you to buy you numerous gifts: then you should dump her. relationships like that usually don't last long. I have an uncle who works a very high paying job for the city, but he found my aunt in an everyday encounter, he's gone through numerous gold diggers, but he liked her because she didn't care about the money. That's the type of girl you deserve, and I'm guessing that's the type of girl you would like. As long as you act the part of a gentlemen and treat her like a lady than what you make, or what you buy for her shouldn't really matter. There are a lot of people giving you advise like: "yeah girls are expensive" (mostly males). From a woman's point of view though I don't think it really matters. If you get into a relationship with a woman who expects you to buy you numerous gifts: then you should dump her. relationships like that usually don't last long. I have an uncle who works a very high paying job for the city, but he found my aunt in an everyday encounter, he's gone through numerous gold diggers, but he liked her because she didn't care about the money. That's the type of girl you deserve, and I'm guessing that's the type of girl you would like. As long as you act the part of a gentlemen and treat her like a lady than what you make, or what you buy for her shouldn't really matter.
You already said that you have a job that let you meet lots of cool people and hot girls.
Try going on free dates or cheap ones. A cup of coffee a walk on the beach are my go tos. Offer to cook her a special meal at your place, some wine, some cuddling and Netflix.
Women who only want money (like one who posted here) are gold diggers. If you have a cool job that doesn't earn you a lot of money you can still find women who are into that. Cops, firefighters, EMTs, none of them make bank but they have really cool jobs and they are sought after by lots of women, so there are quite a few who can see past the low income thing. I know it doesn't always seem like it though lol.
Yes. Cut down where you can maybe.. Like don't eat out, bring lunches to work. Shop somewhere more affordable for groceries, etc. I love it when a guy would rather go on a hike with me, or to the coast or river for a day trip and picnic. I realize this costs money too.. But can be much less. If a girl realizes that you are a hard worker and take care or your priorities first, I think this is more admirable that trying to win me over with showing that you have money.
Everything's possible! And this is no exception. I know that doing this will require you to perhaps put your pride aside, but when it comes to going on dates and all, perhaps you should discuss this with your date. I know it's not the ideal first date conversation, but if she understands, she'll be more helpful and understating towards your situation and if she doesn't understand, you've dodged a bullet!
However, I do think that if this job is causing you financial instability, you should ask yourself whether you are on the road that you desire to be. I understand that money isn't the main focus of some people's lives, such as myself, but it is important to be able to take care of yourself in the best manner that you can. Wishing you the best! :)
You dont need money to have a girlfriend. Its what you have in common and how often you spend time with each other that count. My 16 yr old daughter is dating a just turned 19 yr old. She doesn't have a job cuz she's too busy with school work and extra curricular activites. He goes to college and works but all his money goes to pay for school so he doesn't spend much money on her/on dates etc... But you know what? He treats her so much better then those high school boys. They have such a good relationship the only thing that matters to both of them is being together.
Just find that girl that doesn't care about money or that knows what it's like to live on a budget. My boyfriend and I both earn very little but it's never been a problem, I guess our sort of dates were walking our dogs, going to the beach (with our dogs..) or watching a movie, cooking for each other etc. We have never been on a date that cost us money.
Honestly I don't get why it seems to be such a necessity to have money in order to date girls...
of course you can, dates dont need to be in fancy restaurants, you dont even need to spend money, the point of a date is not doing that, the point of it is to spend time with the other person and have fun You are putting effort on what you are doing and thats a good thing, I respect people that do that coz even if its hard, you are managing to pay for your own stuff without any help and that says something good about you
Anyway seriously yes many do not care. I have no idea why "women are goldiggers" sterotype still still stays. Men and women make equally with money now so why should we be so extremely money hungry? :/
You don't always have to spend money when you go on a date. You can also do a nice hike or something like that. Sometimes you do, but I think a lot of girls are alright with paying for themselves. If she's not, you shouldn't be with her anyways.
pay check to pay check to pay check that's how it is for everyone nowadays so no worries also don't date a girl who is only interested in your money and i'm sure she'd be happy with just a coffee or maybe come over to your house? I don't know.
I think you need another side job or something because honestly, you need money to get a girl. Not because we're materialistic and only care about money, but because we actually like to go out. You don't always have to pay for her, we don't EXPECT it, but you should at least be able to pay for yourself.
yes you can. people like a stable finacial relationships yes but hey don't let that stop you from going out there. y'all will figure things out. Don't be discourage from something just because of money.
As long as you have realistic expectations I am sure there's going to be plenty of girls out there for you
Yeah, chilled out chicks. Which usually aren't the ones dropping tons of money on being the hottest thing to catch a man's attention with great clothes, perfectly dyed and styled hair, expensive makeup, sexy shoes, boob jobs, etc.
what job? and yea she gonna want to see u can at least take care of yourself well
You can definitely meet girls while not having a lot of excess cash on hand. However, it's hard to have a continuous relationship while not being able to pay for some, or all of the dinners while first dating (Yes, I get that this is 2015 and girls can pay for dinner, but if it is to be equal. Then the man should pay for half as well).
The thing you should be really asking yourself is "Is this the place I want to be in life for when I get married?". Not saying you'll marry the next girl you go on a date with, but you should consider the idea of making sure that you yourself are stable emotionally, and financially before going out on dates. Plus, once you make more you usually have more confidence, and chicks dig confidence. lol
Yeah!! parties at friends houses are usually free or pitch in for beer or something. Call up nightclubs to get on the guestlist and go before 11pm, most clubs do that free cover if you get on the pre-11pm guestlist. But then drinks obviously you have to pay for, if you drink.
You can certainly "meet" girls and have little money.
But let's face it... money is the lubrication for... everything. Makes everything so much easier.
And I really think that girls get a bad rep for being called "Gold Diggers". Evolution programmed them to look for the best providers. They are natural "nesters". And when guys call girls "gold diggers" ... ninety-nine percent of the time it's coming from someone who has no money and doesn't feel he can compete.
No, you don't. Just be prepared for a lot of passive aggressive sideways glances when she sees your place or learns that your job isn't high paying or god forbid you ask her to pay for herself.
For me, when I started making a lot more money it was a relief mostly to me because I no longer had to stress that i was spending too much in my dating life. It didn't really "impress" girls at least that I could get them to admit to.
You can meet them... BUT, the problem is it won't take long before they discover your financial situation, so it won't last long. Women want men who earn decent money, or show the potential to earn decent money in the future. The latter may be your saving grace, IF you can convince them you have the potential of future earnings.
Your time is better spent getting a better job.
Right now, just go on dates for fun. Don't seek a relationship.