If I had that opinion, I'd very rarely have to pay on a first date then. Since I'm usually not the one doing the asking.
I think if you both agree to do something, the person being asked should at least offer to pay their share and not expect to be paid for. I also think first dates should not be expensive. The point is to get to know each other, not spend money.
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Split, always split.
The problem with 'whoever asks, pays' is that women just won't ask. We know women, more than men, like to sit around dropping invisible hints until the guy they want comes around knocking on their door.
It sounds equitable in theory but no, crunch the numbers and the ratio of interest in someone vs. expenditure is going to be less for females than males.
So the best solution for our culture to adopt is for everyone (unless it's a surprise) to pay for your own shit until your relationship is cemented.
I disagree. You agreed to go on the date which means you want to see him or her too, so you should be willing to pay for your own plate or drinks. If you don't have the money to go to a fancy restaurant, you can always suggest a cheaper restaurant instead of that fancy restaurant.
If they invite you and take you somewhere of their own choice (even if with your own agreement), they should pay for it or at least assume they will (they may not pay for everything in case you wanna pay for yourself, like most men and some women do).
Then if you go for coffee afterward, it's Dutch. It's always nice or even polite if the person offers to pay in return though.
i think that people should pay for themself... If i ask a guy out i won't pay for him unless we were dating and he didn't have any money. The same goes for the guy, if the guy asks me out, i dont expect him to pay for me.. unless im broke and he insists on taking me out
Not really. I've been asked out on dates by women and I always went expecting to pay my half. There's always the argument that if they invite you to an expensive restaurant and expect you to pay they're assholes, but how hard is it to suggest somewhere more affordable? I'd feel like a cheeky bastard expecting to be paid for.
Disagree. Just because someone invites me to an event does not mean they should have to pay for me. If you don't have money for it, say so and then they can decide whether or not they can or are willing to pay for two. Better that than surprise them at the end of the date. "Whoops, left my wallet at home. But you asked me out, so you should pay anyways". We call that a leech.
Well, i disagree on this one. Even though i hate unwritten rules of dating and relationships, there's this ritual that has to happen at the first date no matter who asked whom out, guy tries to pay like it's what's supposed to be, girl intervenes and offers to split, they insist slightly on each other, in the end girl concedes and guy pays for the date. Even though it looked really long when i put it down here, it's only supposed to take like twenty seconds.
They should be the ones to pay after all they did the inviting it wasn't your idea and being only thirteen what was he thinking why invite you in the first place of he wasn't planning on paying for it the one that does the asking does the paying