My ex and I were together a year before breaking up. Everything went well between us in the relationship. I saw him twice a week since he lives 45 min. away. The only problem I had was I never wanted to get too close to him because I have a daughter who is 18 months old now. She is not his but from the day we met I did let him know she is my top priority and I needed some one who would love her like their own. Especially since her own father has nothing to do with her. All I really got from him was I'll try and he kinda did the first 4 months of dating ( he would play with her etc and even watched her for me a couple times). After that he just told me he didn't want to get to attached to her right away until he knew how things were going to go with us first which I can understand. Well after that I let it go for the time being but the last 2 months we dated he would made some rude comments or jokes about kids that just sounded like he thought kids were the last thing he wanted. So I brought my daughter up again with him . Asking him just if things between us were to go long term , would he be there for my daughter etc. He just said he hadn't made up his mind yet on it yet. I wasn't sure what to do, so I just gave him more time and waited to just see if he would bring it up with an answer. well one night he texted me that answer, the answer no. then called the next day left a message about it all! I was feeling so mad he had chosen to bring this up over the phone. because he does know that I would break up if he doesn't want anything to do with my daughter. I did call back after the message and broke up with him, I never let him know I was mad sad or even upset. But I am horribly depressed, heartbroken, mad , and even miss him terribly as selfish as it sounds. Since then its been a month and I haven't tried to contact him. He texted me once a week since then with (been thinking about you hope your OK) to ( happy new years) etc friendly stuff. He tried calling so to not come off like he got to me or like I'm bitter, I called back and got no answer. so 4 days went by and he tried calling again and left a message saying he was just calling to see how I was since he had not heard from me. So again to be nice I tried calling back and got no answer. Why would he call to find out how I am and still have no interest in really finding out? I never text him back but I did call back. And should I even try answering or calling back if he were to call again? I miss him and of course somehow hope I could changed his mind .but its hurtful enough when someone lets you go, choosing to do so over the phone will of course ensure me that he never cared to begin with. It just demonstrates a deep selfishness in him. Sadly I still want him back but will never as long as he won't have my daughter. And I wonder if he knows this all and is just plain doing a little damage control so he can feel better knowing I'm not mad about it all. should I call or never ?
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Trust me leave him alone and let him go . I have three kids and was with a guy who wasn't their father for almost two years making a selfish mistake of dating a guy who never wanted kids or marriage all because I was lonely and missed him. Yes he was good to my kids but they ended up hurt cause they got attached. Let his ass go you got the answer you needed that he wasn't ready to be a dady to your baby..my kids father is a serious POS. WHat happened to yours? Friend me if you like...we can chat I so get what your going through cause this just ended between my ex and I a month ago..1