So there is this guy I've known from work he's 31 and I am 19. I really like him. He's so nice and sweet but sometimes makes me feel annoyed.
Like two weeks ago I told him I likes him. He would text me good morning, text me all during the day. We hung out on Friday night. He told me he liked me but he's not ready to date. We joked and talked the whole night until like 1 am. We held hands etc. We hung out on Saturday and talked. And he kissed me. The next week he wouldn't text me but I would text him and we would talk on the phone. Now it's like he doesn't text me. Like he's avoiding me... even though he's still nice to me and talks to me at work. I think he likes someone else. I mean I'm so young so in all honesty why would he like me? He still does extremely nice stuff for me... like giving me rides home, he's there for me whenever and I mean whenever. He still "flirts" with me.
But I don't know. What do you guys think? Should I just forget about it or what? Would guys that age ever date a girl my age? Why be so extremely nice and give me hope? Is he into someone else?
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He has been extremely nice and given you hope because he likes you. Yes, guys that age would date a girl your age, but not all guys. And that is probably something that this particular guy is struggling with. His hot and cold could be interpreted as a sign that he is thinking about someone else. That's a reasonable assumption. It may not be true, but it could be. It could also be that he just got busy, or things have been happening in his life, or that he is wondering if you and him actually would work and what would that mean. Could be lots of things. Guys are very different, and they react differently to an age gap.
Don't think that it is an impossible thing though. That's almost the same gap as my partner and I had when we started seeing each other. She was 19, I was 29. We have been together 11 years now, and have outlasted hundreds of relationships by people around us that were closer in age. A large age gap isn't a deathblow to a relationship. A large age gap isn't a magic bullet that will make a relationship work. It still comes down to compatibility between people. Everything you've been saying about this guy would apply equally to a guy that was 20 - a 20-year old could do all the same things, and have all the same reactions. He could show interest one week and a lack of interest the next. That part isn't age dependent.
Him saying he is 'not ready to date' is not a great sign, but may not be a dealbreaker. The thing is, the best way to know what he is thinking is to talk to him about it. He knows what he is thinking a lot better than anybody on GaG does.1
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