So the reason I am asking this is because there is a new girl at school, I was the first guy to try and get to know her. She showed interest, until a guy who thought she was cute asked her out. I like her personality and looks (she's awesome, into photagraphy and drawing, not too nice but not mean). Today her friend tried to get her to sit next to me, and of course it was a no. Her now boyfriend was my friend, and used the fact that I play baseball to put me down. Another question, why in the world do girls seem like they like that? I'm a shy guy who was finally tring to "make a move", and this shit happens. She even has a cousin who has been here all 3 years of MS WHO KNOWS I'M SHY. She was one of the reasons I even went for it. So girls please tell me why you let this shit happen to us shy people? In my part I at least tried to stake my claim. I don't think ANYONE likes me now. I am just a 13 year old who plays video games, plays a little baseball, is way to skinny (and too tall for how skinny I am), and is SHY. Do I stand a chance girls, none of you seem to like baseball players. And guys, why do you do this shit to shy people? In this instance this guy, used that I'm shy, against me. Sure you like her, maybe you know her a bit, but if a shy person is finally putting forth an effort, don't fucking ruin him. This has happened to me, my friend Alex, and a few other friends of mine. Everytime we just sit there, depressed, and contemplate life. I've seen the other guys, either they don't care or they are crying. And we just sit down, and eat ourselves away. Give us a chance.
Most Helpful Girl
Shy people are boring to be around.
It might hurt your feelings, but it's the truth. If you're constantly fidgeting and people have to force sentences out of you, the conversation becomes more of a chore than an enjoyable pastime.
The guy that used your weakness to boost his image in her eyes is a typical self absorbed asshole. Your female friend has gravitated towards his brash assertive manner since he raised himself above you and some other people and now she views him as a leader or sorts.
She's young and impressionable and thus mistaken his assholish behaviour for confidence.
I personally don't give shy people a chance when it comes to relationships, it's too much of a hassle to constantly coddle and reassure them.
Friends? Not a problem. But if it's a person I want emotional compatibility with, a shy person is a nightmare.0
Most Helpful Guy
Shyness just isn't attractive to women. Some will say they like it but more often than not they end up with other guys because they don't realise a shy guy is interested in the first place, and they're not confident to make a move themselves.
If you want to fix this you need to get over the shyness, I speak from experience as I used to be just like you. The way you do it is to force yourself to do things you're too shy to do e. g. asking a girl out, telling her you find her attractive. Next time you feel like saying it or doing it, just do it. Most people want to wait until they have confidence before they do it, but it doesn't work like that, you get the confidence from forcing yourself to do it over and over again until you realise it's not that bad. The number one thing holding back shy guys is not being able to let a girl know they find her attractive or waiting way too long to make a move, because another more confident guy will always beat you to it, and your lack of action can seem like disinterest to a girl so obviously she'll choose the other guy. They aren't mind readers.0