I dont think I am asking for that much since I have a lot to offer, but it just seems like its so hard for me to meet women who I actually want to date. I come across girls all the time who I will express interest in, and maybe go on a date or two with, but usually I end up losing interest in them because they aren't what I want. Here are my standards:
-She must be both my religion, and from my political background
-She has to be studying a good subject in college, something that she can get a job from (like Engineering, Medicine/Nursing (this is a massive bonus), Finance, Accounting, Computer Science, etc)
-She must be good looking (like 7+ out of 10)
-She has to be a reasonable height and weight, I dont lay down guidelines but if she is overweight or super tall/short that isn't really going to fly with me.
-She must compliment my personality and be both outgoing and introverted, since I am on the line between the two, and its hard for me to get along with pure extraverts or pure introverts because they are too extreme for me.
-She must be caring, selfless, and love kids since a big side passion of mine (outside of the office) is working with kids, and by selfless I mean like she puts others before herself (its hard to find girls like this now adays)
-She must be willing to put up with my ridiculous dreams and goals and support me in them (including my hope to move overseas to either Africa or India).
-Other things that aren't required but are nice are; love of tennis (someone who I can play with), ability to play instruments (piano or guitar preferably so we can play together), good cooking skills, fluency in another language (French, Spanish, or German are best), fun to be with, really caring of me (will surprise me with things every now and then, or just do little things to help me out), or really obsessed with travel.
Is this too much to ask for a girl? Should I take out some of my criteria to find more women?
Most Helpful Girl
I think the problem here is that you set specific criteria for a potential girlfriend. It seems like if she's one inch too short or one "point" away from being attractive, she's an automatic reject for you. Cast that thought away and truly get to know people, and you might find someone right for you.1
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Most Helpful Guy
There is nothing wrong with having high standards, don't feel bad about it. It's good to know that you respect and value yourself, I can understand it's important for you. I would say higher the standards you have means you are choosy/pick and that means you will tend to remain single for a long time but reading your post I suppose that's fine with you as well. I am not sure if you are trying or if you are just waiting for things to happen, but if you are trying then just keep trying and if you come across a woman who is exactly the way you want then it's good, if it doesn't happen, then be ready to accept that as well.
You must remember that since you have high standards so that can also mean you may not get the kind of woman you want, so be mentally prepared to accept that consequence as well.
I would say it's good to know you are confident and remember never settle for anything less than you deserve, don't compromise with your standards, don't compromise with your happiness, I am sure you don't want that as well, right?
It's much better to be single instead of compromising on your standards to have a woman in your life!!, that's so illogical. You must be confident that you deserve the best.0