I'm 19 and a virgin and never dated which I see as a problem. I have recently began trying to better myself by joining clubs so I can be more social and gain confidence in public speaking (I joined debate club). I often notice that I don't have much in common with most people since I don't drink (I hate the taste) and I have never had, nor will I try marijuana since I see it as a disgusting substance. I'm seen as more right wing than my peers even though I consider myself a centrist since I've met actual right wingers.
I have confidence issues especially when speaking to people since I often feel like I'm surrounded by idiots who care only about trivial things. I want to be more social and have lots of friends but most people around me are not compatible with me. I've always found trouble fitting in with groups of people since I am always too different from the rest which makes me feel inadequate. I have a few friends but I see them rarely since they are always busy. When I do see them it feels amazing to speak with interesting people.
I have recently also started studying harder in university since my marks have been quite low due to my apathy.
My university has a lot of attractive girls but I have no idea what to say to them. The few I have talked to either had boyfriends or rejected me. Those that had boyfriends were my type but I would never get in the way of their happiness. Those that rejected me, I later found out that they weren't my type and that I was trying to force a connection because I found them attractive.
What advice do you have for me?
- Work on improving yourselfVote A
- Approaching girls can be a part of improving yourselfVote B
Didn't expect this question to get so popular since most of my questions get few responses.
There are a lot of great responses and I'm not sure who to give the MHOs to yet.
Most Helpful Girl
disagree with both.
Yet agree at the same time.
What I'm trying to say is that you should just let it roll. Like, per say, if you keep paying attention to how you walk and not where you walk, you'll never knew what you might run into, or if you only pay attention to where you're going and not how, you might just tip...
But between the two I would say to work on yourself, but at the same time don't shut out the idea of a relationship because who knows? What if that certain someone is the one who can help you progress in life...2
Most Helpful Guy
A good relationship, is based off a fundamental framework of shared belief's, the greater your beliefs, the better the relationship.
I'd recommend you work to improve yourself as a person, and continue an effort into finding people who share the way you see the world, and who would want to share the world with you.
Anything else is futile waste of effort.2