Generally, I don't like to make a first date expensive because it seems fake and forced or even desperate. I try to keep it midrange or below and focus on experiential type things. The more expensive stuff generally comes later I think at least for me.
I agree with you. Especially the first date because you don't know if things are going to go anywhere. And it's not fair to expect him to pay for a super expensive place, if he's going to have to then turn around and do that for another girl or several more girls until he finds one who wants to be with him.
I think a cheap place is totally acceptable. The date can be a trip to McDonald's for all I care, and maybe a walk to some neat places, maybe get some ice cream somewhere. You know, just explore the city or do some fun activity. Doesn't have to cost a lot.
I find the cheaper dates tend to allow me to get to know the guy better.
Well I don't know about McDonald's... but I usually go low key on a first date, especially if it is someone I don't really know. I think spending all this money and having a fancy meal sets expectations too high for the evening and can stress people out! My favorite dates actually only include dinner if it is going well and we want to spend more time together, I always make it so if either of us wants, we could bail after an hour or something.
I agree though, just a casual drink, or something light is the best way, then you can do more if you like each other- I find that form to be a way less formal date to be more natural and fun! None of this, pick her up, buy fancy dinner and movie BS lol
It's fine if you're looking for a really nice guy who works as a veterinary assistant for minimum wage. Expect to struggle in a marriage though. Expect that you may have to support him. Expect that he may be a wonderful guy - but sucks at picking his shit up and you have to do most of the house cleaning. And - expect that you'll have to do all that after you've done a hard days work because he doesn't make enough money to support you. Expect that, at some point you'll have to totally support him and put him through school so that he can gain the skills to become a competent provider so you can do things like have kids.
Seen it a million times.
Expensive dates signal to a woman that a man is good provider. All men come with baggage - the ability to be a strong provider mitigates a hell of a lot of baggage and just makes things easier for the both of you.
1. Because some of them confuse a guy who's paying a lot for a guy who cares a lot. 2. Because some of them have old fashioned ideas that men are supposed to give them what they want in exchange for sex. And they want an expensive meal.
I never met a woman like that, but I'm sure they exist. I wouldn't feel comfortable taking a girl to a fancy restaurant on a first date unless it was a special occasion. The first date should be about valuing the first time the two of you spend together.
Sometimes guys like to show off how much money they have. Or they just like showing that they can take someone out somewhere nice. It's not that Mcdonalds won't suffice, I would just be worried that the person I'm taking out might think I'm cheap or that I don't care about my date.
I think it's perfect to go to McDonald's in first date😂😂not for the money thing but it's more comfortable and the date is to know each other not for spending much money. you're the one that any guy dreams to date btw😂😂😂 others are just impressed with money
Two people are interested, they go out because they want to enjoy spending time together.
To me dating is that simple. I don't know why so many people insist on making it complicated. If I'm out with a guy it's because I want to get to know him, not let him spend money on me. It's why I always isnist on paying my way. 1) One it's an unfair double standard, I believe in equality. 2) It's him I'm interested in, not his money. 3) i don't want to create an expectation that I owe him anything.
I think a lot of older girls expect the guy to pay on a first date. I don't know anyone my age who expects the guy to pay, or who doesn't regularly pay for their boyfriend and themselves. And if they do they're cheap and greedy and live in a fantasy world.
If a girl demands to go to a expensive restaurant for a first date, then they are the type of girls men should stay away from.. unless you're Angelina Jolie or something. Then again I'm a nerd and would love to spend my date in a comic book store so what do I know :P
I don't know about you but I would hope for the absolute opposite of an expensive date. I would feel obliged to go on a following date because he spent so much and I wouldn't want to just be like "lol thanks for splashing cash but no". I would much rather something low key where it's about getting to know each other. Also it means I don't have to spend 2 hours getting ready and changing my outfit 6 times because I look fat etc etc.
We can do fancy dates on anniversaries. When it's worth it.
When am dating a guy I tend to not expect much because after all he isn't mine yet.. However when we have established a more concrete relationship.. I would expect more but am usually considerate. Some women tend to ask for unrealistic gifts and I think that you need to be considerate , taking into account the guys needs, the salary is working for among other things
what you said about the getting to know the person is more important than how much he spends on you is true. but I think for a first date a nicer restraunt would be a good idea because it shows how much you care and it's a good first impression that you are going to treat your girl right. but I wouldn't expect you nor would I want to go to a fancy dinner every date just for special occasions like and anniversary, or a first date, or when you have important news to announce like a promotion. and sometimes just because
Because it's called good manners. If a person is making a first impression, he/she should have the good sense to do it RIGHT, not on the cheap.
Here's a little warning story... my niece's parents through her this costly birthday party at a catering hall only to have it crashed by her boyfriend's parents trying to call it 'an engagement party.' They were the laughing stock and looked so cheap and petty, well your mother was right, men who do such things to you and don't care to do right about you NEVER change. This guy and his family have treated her like s**t since Day One.
No manners, no class, no respect, no happy relationship.
Oh god I would HATE to go on an expensive first day. That would be so fucken awkward and even worse if it goes really bad. I would just reject them and say,"I'm sorry but I can't afford that so I can't go on a date with you."
Why do some girls expect an expensive first date? Likely for the same reason guys seem to expect sex/sexual activity before entering a relationship. That reason being some associate worth to the act.
For some gals how much a guy is willing to spend on her correlates to his interest and investment of her. No different than for some guys how sexual a gal is willing to be correlates to her interest of him.
I'd love the walking talking macdonalds idea :D, first date with my now boyfriend was actually after my training, on the track, talking, then in his car drinking coffee and eating cookies, it was perfect for me and we had so much fun. When two people like each other they dont need fancy stuff to enjoy each others company
Way to make a completely wrong generalization. Are you trying to build yourself up or something. You have that mentality that i see with a lot of girls on here who post stuff like this just to get praises from the men commenting get a life and stop making assumptions! For the record before someone comes with some B. S I don't expect expensive first dates but I'm not eating McDonald either that's mostly do to the fact that I'm vegan though :)
I've never expected a guy to take me to a fancy place on a first date. Actually, all the first dates I had took place in coffee shops, bookstores, the movies, inexpensive restaurants (not fast food chains though).
if a girl wants an expensive FIRST date, (in my opinion) it seems like she might only be in it for your money.. i just feel like if you're sincerely into someone, it shouldn't matter what kinda date ya go on, as long as y'all are having fun & are just connecting on an emotional level. I understand more expensive dates when you've been dating for awhile and you just want a special evening, but I just don't get it for a first date. whoops.
It is important to get to know each other but personally, I prefer an expensive restaurant because almost everyone expects to be on their best in the start of the relationship.. XD. I am fine with both but I like if the guy is trying to impress me and has put some thought into our date. Eating at McDonalds is the worst thing for me, I would eat my lipstick and don't get me started about my eating habits... About paying, essentially the one who takes the other one out should pay, and I prefer one person to pay since my maths is just about terrible. If I am taking him out, I am paying and he is, then he is paying or we will somehow split it. Also, an exception hee is if one person is poor and other is rich or theydon't have the same financial background. Bottom line, for me, plan an expensive date if you really like your date, not some casual chap.
My mom always told me to make a man work so.. I just feel like whatever you allow in the beginning, will continue and he would feel like it doesn't take much to love me (if we proceeded to an actual relationship). You don't have to take me out to Red Lobster, that's absurd (only if he wanted to though). I wouldn't mind going to a coffee shop just to talk or somewhere like Chilli's or a movie.
On a side note: Men nowadays like to play victim on how we girls/women "treat" them. They're just upset because they've finally realized that spending a lot of money still won't get them "laid". See how every time a girl is the topic regarding treatment here on GaG, it's gonna be that ONE guy that claims we're too spoiled? Bunch of cry babies. Menimists are nothing but crying man children who can hardly get a woman, so they turn around and blame us for all their failures and then proceed to call us slutty (because it helps them sleep alone at night), ALL BECAUSE we would refuse to do anything "slutty" with them. To the guys that complain left and right on here, just try dating guys and shut up.