I noticed way more women approach me or compete for my attention when I already have a girl on a date or am flirting hardcore. Is this seen as higher status that I am passing a women's comfort zone test so others feel comfortable as well? Or is it natural to want another woman's man soley because his attention is on other women and not them? Would like to understand this to improve my dating experiences.
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That's the way women's minds work. If other women are actively interested in you, then you must be a good catch. If other women don't want anything to do with you, then you must be a bad catch. It's why you end up being more successful with women by just treating them like one of your many options when you're first dating them, instead of acting like you're head over heels for them after talking to her one time
They subconsciously think "I'm not sure how this guy feels about me, he must have other things in his life and other women competing for his attention, so he must have high value" instead of "I've barely known this guy and he's like already completely dedicated to me, he must not have a lot going on in his life and barely any other options, he must have low value."
The women needs to feel like she's chasing you too. She needs to have the feeling that she's winning you over as much as you're winning her over, which can't happen if you're already in love with her by the first date0