My boyfriend is depressed and sick all the time. I'm always there to comfort him. There will be days where he is fine and the next day he won't be. He always used to give me attention and affection, no matter how he felt, but now I rarely get anything from him now. I think it might be the new medication that he is taking. He was still giving me a lot of attention until a week ago after our fight, but now I think he hates me and doesn't know that he does. But even so I'm always there to help him with his pain. I know that it's mostly the depression but I can't help but think that he doesn't love me anymore and I think it's taking a toll on me.
You need to start thinking of yourself. Whatever his degree of depression is, he has to ultimately help himself. He needs to snap out of it, a hundred years ago people either did that or they didn't survive. Quite the incentive. You babying him won't help either him, or yourself. I know I seem insensitive, your 26 years old, do you want to be 36 and realize you spent ten years of your life without realizing it. It goes faster than you think. Put yourself first, no one else will!
i am like this myself , I am suffering with high anxiety , stress and depression presently due to a lot thats happened to me , i am OK one mintute and then i am not , I know its hard on my own girlfriend Hannah because there are times where i just snap at her and fight with her which I think makes her feel I dont love her anymore.
when we are like it our emotions go to pieces we cannot control the results its like a nuclear reactor if it gets too overloaded it explodes , he does not hate you he's processing a lot of information and there are times he will snap and it could be aimed unintentionally in your direction , everything sounds like he loves you a lot.
Just be with him and remember if he fights with you try not to take it personally from what you say I really dont think he wants to fight with you , one thing you have a bunch of is the internet and self help its fantastic and to be honest there maybe something on there you want to try aswell.
There's not a whole lot you can do, but take him o a psychiatrist. Just be around him a lot, ik you're not his mom and don't plan to act all mothering but you should limit his time on electronics because those can easily add to depression.