I'm really confused and hurt by a few guys I've met and have been crushing on lately. These guys admit to having a crush on me and finding me pretty and they want sex but don't want to be in a relationship. I am looking for something serious not hookups and it seems like most guys only want hookups.. I'm starting to think there is something wrong with me that guys don't want to date me. I'm not dramatic, I work and go to school, I'm kind and go out of my way for people. Is it me? or is it them?
Most Helpful Guy
HeyWhisper, don't worry its not you! Its the guys.
Many guys around our age are just not willing to settle for relationships yet. They are very focussed on dating around and getting laid.
When you get older more and more guys mature and the chances of coming across a guy willing to commit increases (I still think the girls are 3 years older mentally could apply here :P).
But one big tip i can give you just in case your making this mistake : Stop waiting for those attractive guys to approach you at the bar. The guys who practised there game so much they have no trouble convincing you they are great or smooth talking you into bed. Go for the cute guy in the corner minding his own business and don't be affraid to approach first.6
Most Helpful Girl
There's absolutely nothing wrong with you, you just have to find the "right guy" & I promise you they are out there, you just have to wait for them to come around. I thought the same way you did before I met my boyfriend, and he never rushed into anything or pressured me into doing something I didn't want too. We waited about 3 months before we did anything, just because I wanted to be sure (bc I was a virgin) don't feel pressured into having sex with some boys that probably don't deserve ya anyway, sweetheart. just wait for the perfect guy, he'll come around. 😘0