I dated a psychologist for 2 years. He hadn't practised in a councilling clinic but he had studied all the theories. He told me I was a personality type I wasn't and base his assumptions of my behavior on those and instead of listening to my view point he would tell me I was just mad for some other reason. He played a lot of mental games with family and friends and a lot of them stopped talking to me so he effectively isolated me. I think he did psychology because he had his own problems to sort out. But a psychologist who didn't do all those things would probably be great to go out with.
There is one thing called ethics for psychologists :
With knowledge of the deepest corners of the human psyche, you can invade anyone's mind and destroy them if you wanted to - If I were a bad person, I'd end up working for some secret service torturing inmates or stuff.
And don't breach anyone's boundaries in case they see no purpose for them in your advice.
Of course it may be helpful to have good knowledge of communication - because communication is extremely important in a relationship. If you are unable to openly communicate your needs or boundaries, you will not be happy...
For someone majoring in psychology, I'm a bit offended...
Just kidding! But really, it depends on the person. Me personally, I'm not about to overanalyze anyone or try to be miss psychologist all the time. At work is one thing but I'll just be me outside of it.
As someone who is also doing psych, I would say that you have to learn to turn off the analytical part of your brain off. No one wants to feel like that are dating their psychologist. Nor do you want to feel like your partner is more of a patient than a lover. So you need to set boundaries for yourself or your partner. a 'normal' relationship can be easily achieved.
It would get annoying only if he didn't know how to separate qualities his job requires from what a relationship requires. I wouldn't like to be with someone who over-analyzed my emotions and responses-- it creates a power differential like the one that exists between doctor/patient and a relationship needs an equality.
Depends if you can switch it off, or at least appear to.
I studied psychology and one of the things that I found rather... annoying shall we say, was the fact that you can't stop analysing people. It's constant, you can;t just take something someone says and accept it, everything would be analysed, taken apart.
I'll be honest though, I find insight and understanding of the human psyche to be incredibly alluring. I find it a very very attractive quality in a man.
One of my good friends is doing his honours in psych and instead of directly assessing and 'treating' me, he sort of uses the information I give him and when I need help with something, he tells me what's going on in my mind at the moment and what he thinks I should do, so he's a great help. As long as you don't actively try counsel your girlfriend, there's no real issue
They are what I like to refer to as the "quicker fucker-uppers". They generally have the most fucked up kids imaginable, and the their spouses usually have to rely on medication just to stay with them; and if they do divorce, they will continue to mind-fuck their spouses even after that. I've seen more than a few examples of this. I find it even difficult to be social with them. Its invasive when you feel you are being studied, when you really do not wish to be. They tend to over-analyze and over-complicate every single thing.
But that's just my opinion... do with it what you will.
Yeah I would, part of my double degree is psychology so it would be interesting to date someone with the same interests as me. I think you'll find good ones and bad ones to be with in a relationship. If I liked the guy I would date him, if I didn't I wouldn't same with any other guy in any other profession. However if he was constantly trying to psychoanalyse me then I would split it off. A lot of the people in my course tend to be pseudo intellectuals which is equally annoying and break up worthy. But short answer, yes, unless it went to shit.
I'm deeply interested in psychology myself - I'm no professional but it would be something that would be relate-able in the relationship. But of course, boundaries must be set to set apart the professional field from the relationship.
I always found it ironic that every single physchologist I met dont seem to know anything about the human mind and they are also the worst at following or applying their own thoughts, diagnose or logic to their own life. While I wouldn't mind in concept, the problem is that they base so much of their knowledge in a different holy bible and they just can't see past that. Which leads to endless of problems in itself. So I probably wouldn't. Its fine that people love or are very interested in psychology, but an open mind would certainly be neccessary.
If you remove yourself from the ivory tower, you would see that being a psychologist makes your relationships different, but not necessarily better. What is the divorce rate for PhD psychologist compared to college educated people?
Loool very unlikely. I have a lot of respect for psychology, sociology, anthropology, etc, as sciences. However, it's extremely easy to get a degree in them and most people go in it as their "oh I'm qualified to do this" resort, and learn it as a job rather than passion. Hence they end up being idiots.