Yeah I know many guys that are sweethearts and have a big heart. My husband is a great guy. I've also met assholes and charming assholes (fake good guys) but it's normally pretty easy to see the difference. My first boyfriend believed he was a good guy. He wanted to marry me and live together. He was always doing sweet romantic things. But over the months he cheated on me a lot. Never acted any differently when he'd be with me. He also lied about big things and sometimes the smallest stupidest thing. He was a bad guy. A bad boyfriend. He was fake, but he didn't think so. He truly believed he was a catch and that he would make a great husband one day. Pft. There are good and bad apples. Same if it were women.
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There's a difference between being a nice guy and a "nice guy".
A guy who is a decent person and is genuinely a nice person is a nice guy.
But that's drowned out by the "niceguys" who are just douchebags mad that they can't get a girl. And by "girl" I mean a girl who is at least 8/10, because that's what they're really mad about. A "niceguy" is just a guy who plays the victim card but refuses to date anyone he doesn't deem as hot.
Yes, I do believe that some guys are genuinely nice. I just don't think the self-proclaimed "nice guys" are all that nice. A lot of people who are genuinely nice don't say they're nice. They just show it.
Of course guys can be nice. But they're also only human. Everyone has situations where they might be driven to act a little not-nice once in a while. That doesn't mean they're not a nice person on the whole. It isn't black and white.
Girls do you believe that some guys literally are nice? Yes as I have met a lot of nice bisexual, homosexual, and transgender guys.
I do not believe hetero cisgender guys are literally nice to non relative gals unless it is to get sex be it from her, her wingwomaning, her friends, her family. I find at best guys can be decent human beings they just lack the capacity to be decent to gals.
I met someone recently who is genuinely nice. He was kind and sweet and openly admitted he was not macho. I liked that about him. But then he was very cold in texts, which was weird because in person he was showing me a lot of interest. Now I am wondering if he really was nice or not.
I'm sure they understand that some are and some aren't. To be fair, an awful lot of guys like to play the innocent nice guy, right up until a girl rejects them, and then they turn into immature, bitchy little arseholes, and treat her like shit. I really wouldn't take "nice" as much of a compliment anyway. Girls date guys who they think are wonderful, amazing, incredible, etc - not "nice".
They're referring to guys who refer to themselves as nice guys. I volunteer, hold the door open for complete strangers (be they men or women) and just try to be polite and nice to everyone I interact with and help them if I can. But I don't call myself a nice guy because honestly me saying I'm a nice guy doesn't amount to jack shit.
Non-womanizer guys are almost always "nice", but girl should know that some guys pretend too be nice, so if they get to know guy that is too nice, they should be suspicious, and also, good is not always nice, that is something that also should be taken into count.
I have girls tell me all the time that I'm the "nicest guy ever." I personally think I'm an ass sometimes, but I guess It goes a lot farther than saying things. Apparently you can say the harshest things in the world as long as you show physically that you care, and as long as you're not saying those things to hurt feelings but help them with their issues or lack of knowledge or understanding. If you seriously are concerned with their well-being, it shows physically and audibly.
I think there is confusion with nice guys. I consider myself nice. But I've taken special classes of being happy and genuine. I think there are nice guys but better terms is genuine guys. You can tell who is genuine and who isn't but it takes 2 years to know someone if you want a serious relationship. If you want to find someone like that look at guys you've frienzoned lol