im talking people over the age of 21. like where does the respect get lost? i never have sex on the first date. but i still feel that making out is still a no go on the first date if im really serious about the guy. or is that just me?
Depends on the guy. If during the date she has given me a good impression and demonstrated me that she wants something serious, I can have sex with her in the first date and still consider her relationship material... but not every guy is like that.
Don't do what the guy would like you to do, make the guy like you for what you do.
I think that is just you and let me tell you why. Much of this depends on what you feel for the guy. I've been to bed with guys on the first date but it was lust and I used him as much as he used me. He was hot. And there have been others too. Every guy will try to sleep with you even before the first day when he knocks on the door to see if your home. Just accept it. So you control the situation as I assume you already knew. If you really had a good time and you want to see the guy again when he drops you off throw your arms around him give him a hug, a genuine hug and say I really enjoyed your company. I hope you asked me out again. And that's it
I really think that it depends on the girl. If I had a genuine connection with that girl, I wouldn't lose respect for her for sleeping with me on the first date. If we were just trying to use each other for sex, then there was no respect for each other in the first place.
There is no sexual act which could cause me to lose any respect for a girl. Any loss of respect will come from decisions and the character she displays in other areas. I think guys who lose respect for a woman over sex are insecure.