anyone else that is on a dating app that experience that only 1 out of every 40-50 guy is "datable"?
They are either:
- just unattractive
- too old ( over 30) or too young (younger then 20)
- Not vertified
- Lives miles away
- only have on pic so there is no real chance in seeing what they look like
- only pic of the side of their face
- or just plane not interested in me?
Am i naive for thinking i'll ever fine anyone?
Most Helpful Guy
No, you are not naive. But it is simply a numbers game, and most of the guys at that age are looking for certain things. Having a bunch of guys online that aren't really datable isn't any different than having a bunch of guys in a bar that aren't really datable. The fact that you are looking online at all means that there hasn't been anything that has worked offline either.
If you find a guy that you think is attractive, online, the chances are high that a lot of other girls also think he is attractive. What becomes more important for actually finding someone to date long term is things like hobbies in common, things that you can do when you are not 'on a date'. And things that aren't just common in people everywhere. Saying "I like to have fun, and spend time outdoors, and travel..." is so meaningless, as 90% of profiles say that. Who cares. How does that make you different than the hundreds of other pretty faces that the person sees? And it is the same for guys.
Online gives you different options, and solves a bunch of problems, but introduces some other ones. It's not a magic bullet, but it is not devoid of merit. Your chances at finding the magic man in that age bracket are super low online, but they are possibly even lower offline. That's not being naive.1
Most Helpful Girl
I found my current SO on instagram. Wasn't looking just struck up a conversation and bam, here we are, happy as can be almost 1 year together now.
You can find people anyplace you look (or don't look). I know several people who have met their current SO through dating apps. Don't give up! You're "somebody" will come along! (:0