I've been dating this guy for a while, he's a nice guy but very laid back about everything and quite shy but kind be quietly confident. I have made to make most of the descions for meeting etc. He has made it clear he likes me and finds me attractive etc but I'm struggling to find out whther he wants something serious or not. Early on he did make comments which suggest he wasn't just in it for the sex. we have slept together but since then we have been on another date to the cinema which for once he planned and again everything went fine. My problem is this , I do like him but I won't like him as much if he doesn't continues to not give me a bit of a indication he is wanting something more. I spoke to him a week ago now and this was general chit chat and everything seemed fine however i haven't spoke to him since, again I usually message him to organise things cause he is is so laid back but when I do he's like "yeah we'll definitely meet" lol. Shall I just stop messaging all together and see if he responds for once? and then if he doesn't pressume he's not that interested? or shall I message sometime this week just to ask whether he is interested or not? advice please :)
Shall I carry on making a effort or leave him be? why are guys so confusing ha?
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I can see how you might be confused by his actions. The foundation of all relationships is communication. Since you are really feeling like no clear signs are available to you, I'd be honest with him and ask what his intentions are between you and him. Nothing will satisfy your question like a direct answer to that question. Any other way of satisfying your question will still leave the "what if" scenerio open and you wondering if you interpreted the "sign" correctly. Be honest, tell him you like him and would like to pursue a relationship, and how does he feel? If he's too wishy washy about answering then maybe you should evaluate weather or not he fits into "your type". The kind of guy you want to be with.0
I'm not entirely clear on what you meant by "serious", or "wanting something more," but it seems like you want him to contribute more to the relationship (i. e. Plan/organize dates, surprise you with romance, etc).
He may be taking a step back since, until now, you've been planning most of the dates. Lots of men are like flowing water, we tend enjoy to taking the path of least resistence, so you may actually be encouraging his laid back attitude.
My best advice is to voice your concerns to him in a clear and concise manner (the more specific, the better) and then take a step back and see what he does. Do not use mindgames like stopping communication. Be straight with him. Passive-aggressiveness rarely solves any problems, in my opinion.0
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