How to make her reconsider?

i like this girl , but she doesn't want to date anyone because , she thinks every guy she dates wants one thing (sex) . but I like her and I see more than her physical appeal how can I change her mind about me. and yes I did ask her out.


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Most Helpful Girl

  • I think you can makher econsder by not makign a oveon her too fast, and buy showing her- not just telling her, that you actually like he as a friend and a companion i.e by being a good listener and a good friend etc. your sincerity is what will prove to her that you're not like the other jerks she's obviously dated too many of.

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What Girls Said 7

  • yeah I think the same thing. I haven't done nothing like that with any guy because I know all of them were not good enough to be with me in the first place. she's being picky, good for her. respect that.

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  • just try to do sweet things for her and she'll eventually see that you're not interested in her for sex. example, if she looks sad ask her what's wrong, open a door for her, ask her how her day was, tell her she has a great smile, tell her goofy jokes ect

    all of those things are just small things that will show that you'll be there for her, at least a friend for now

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  • First try to have a few conversations about totally non-related sex things. Try to show her some of your personality, then when you ask her out again there may be some change. If that does not work tell her what you like about her personality. Once she figures out that you connect on a mental level every thing else will begin to connect between you two

    Good luck!

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  • Unfortunately am gunna have to agree with her on some level , you remind me of my situation actually :P anyhow I think you should just express tht her in person after all its wrong to generalize all guys like that becomes a relationship is more then just physical & I dn't see how she can't at least consider giving you guys a chance ( point out tht 2 ) . If she's ignorant and refuses then maybe your wasting your time or she just has trust issues or mean bad experiences. Truth is she'll nver find someone convincing herself to stay in tht frame of mind' if your patient just give her time but give simple gestures tht will make her warm up to you *

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  • I agree with 'Irrelevance' as well. She sounds like she's just making up lame excuses to not go out with you.

    Maybe just continue pursuing her as a friend and then maybe she'll change her mind.

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  • give her time and be patient. don't try to be persistent and be like "see I'm not like that" because then its gonna make her think you really are. I am kind of like the girl you are talking about and for me to date a guy, he would have to prove with time and through his actions that he likes me for more than just sex. if you give up you will come off like you just wanted to hit. but if you try to be persuasive and keep bringing it up then you'll look like you just wanted sex too. basically be a good friend and just be there for her. if its meant to be she'll come around and see that you're for real. good luck! wish there were more guys like you for real

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  • Just give her time and show that sex isn't the only thing you have on your mind. Don't even bring it up at all. I don't agree with some of the comments that said she's coming up with excuses, she's most likely been in a few situations where sex was the only thing the guy she was currently with wanted. One guy can effectively ruin a girl's outlook on men. Good luck!

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What Guys Said 4

  • To be honest, "I don't want to date anybody because of [lame reason here]" means "no thanks, I'm not interested". If a girl is interested, she'll snap you up. Don't bite into a BS reason and continue to think that she'll change her mind, you're doing neither of you any good.

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    • Haha I once told this poor guy that "i don't want to date anybody because I don't believe in dating" he was a dud but I still felt bad afterwards

  • i agree with what irrelevance and anonymous said, because either she is not interested or has some serious, seriously stupid, issues I mean think about that reason for a second...

    you don't want to deal with her in either situation

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  • You can't make anyone do anything. It is probably an excuse because she isn't interested in you. Just be you and stay classy.

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  • What irrelevance said. OP, so if Brad Pitt showed up on her doorstep and asked her to date him, do you really think she'll say that to him?

    Think about it: you're interested in the girl so you want to be around her. Don't you think it's the same way with girls? They won't AVOID people they're genuinely interested in because it makes no sense, logically and emotionally.

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