So since I can't seem to meet anyone interesting irl I have decided to join a datingapp. But what normally happens when I start chatting with a guy is that the convo falls flat and we never plan a date.. even the time s when I feel like im making a little effort.
So any advice on how to keep convos interesting enough to actually get a date out of it?
I online date, and I don't have this problem. My advice is to stay interesting. Don't ask him polite, small talk style questions like you're at the water cooler at work. Do respond to what he shares with interest. Do bring up a new, fun topic if he seems to be running out of things to say. He doesn't want to do all the work.
Also, don't be too eager by ALWAYS answering right away. You do have a life outside online dating, and you don't want him thinking otherwise.
End all of your conversations with a genuine compliment. Just pick something he said that stood out to you in a good way, and say what you thought of it. Flattery is your friend.
Tbh, though, I stop answering if he doesn't ask for my number in 3 days and a date by the end of day 5. If he's not making moves, he's not that interested.
Pretty much the only times that happens to me when Im talking to a girl is when they really dont seem interested in the conversation at all, or if they are making no effort and expect me to completely carry the conversation. I dont really mind messaging girls first and carrying the conversation a little bit, but when it feels like both of us are making an equal amount of effort, thats the conversations I enjoy the most.
I'm not sure. If it's a dating app, they're not looking for sterling conversation through messages. The only thing I can think of, is that it seems to them you're really uninterested. I'm not sure why that would be, but it's the only thing that makes sense. I mean, some guys probably just want to get laid. They wouldn't be put off by bad conversation.
You gotta put some shit up on your profile about stuff you can talk about for a long time with no shame. Like I put up a profile once and was like, "Best STAB move for a hazardsetter" or something like that. I think one time I put up questions from a GRE subject exam and was like, answer correctly 8/10 and almost everyone that messaged me we talked about bio and shit. Was pretty cool, I made some good acquaintances.