Long story short, I've known this girl for a little over three years. For two-and-a-half of those, I have had a crush on her.
Essentially everyone believes we are dating except for our friends. Most of my friends know that I have a crush on her.
I can't really keep this up anymore. It is taking way too big of an emotional toll on me.
(I'm 14 and she's 13, so proper dating is a little out of the question. Can't really go anywhere, ya know?)
I just need to know what to do, like, should I talk to her about it? What should I say?
Most Helpful Girl
While I believe that you should never hold back about how you feel about someone, life's too short to not tell people you care about them... I would be apprehensive about telling a guy friend I have a crush on him. I would need to have a sign from him that he felt the same way.
A while back I told a guy friend I had feelings for him. He didn't feel the same way. Gradually he distanced himself from me and the relationshipddidn't remain the same. He is a good person and backed off to prevent me clinging to false hope.
So before you tell her, be prepared for it to affect your friendship... if she doesn't feel the same way..
I can't be just friends with a guy I have a crush on. It's far too painful. I couldn't bare watching someone I love... love someone else.
So if you tell her it could end the friendship , if you don't , then when she does meet a guy it will be painful for you. So you have to decide which is more painful... she may feel the same way and the only way to know for sure is to be honest about how you feel.
You just have to decide which decision will be more painful. Risking losing her friendship if she doesn't feel the same, or risk having to watch her be with someone else0
Most Helpful Guy
Don't go thinking you can salvage your friendship. It was doomed the moment you developed feelings. There is no coming back from this. You either progress into a relationship, or the friendship will be destroyed. You may as well take the risk. Its a 50% of the friendship failing if you make a move, its a 100% chance of the friendship failing if you DON'T make a move. You have nothing to lose, but a lot to potentially gain.0