What is the most vicious, discounting violence, I can become? I'm not even really in the nice guy camp, considering I'm emotionless and normal more than anything. But, I, still to close to the nice spectrum. Which is weird, because I never censor myself, I'm still vulgar, comedic, and sarcastic. But, anyway... how cruel and vicious can I become? Not just outwardly cruel and vicious, but, subtly, because, that's the way you hurt people, and, women like men that hurt them. I'm not changing myself, I'm just abusing my old personality with bitterness to warp it into another form.
Most Helpful Girl
Its really not about being vicious at all. Guys who get away with those things are mostly only the extremely attractive ones that makes a lot of girls overlook the bad things about them. "Nice guys finish last" is made up, and guys often use it when rejected because they think its their "niceness" that makes girls turned off, when its actually just the way that they approach and interact with the girl that they do wrong and that the bad guys do right, or they are just not attractive to her. And all self proclaimed "nice guys" aren't always nice either... 😅
Personal experience: arrogant, controlling and rude guys are a huge turn off for me. HUGE turn off. Can make a 10 go down to a 4 tbh 😒 has happened, too many times.3
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Most Helpful Guy
Seriously these threads pop up every day.
Being nice does not entitle anyone to a girlfriend. It does however increase your odds of landing a girl.
Being a vicious, cruel @$$hole will not get you girls anymore than being nice will.
Dating is not a black and white scene. It's not nice guys vs mean guys. There are so many different things women and men find attractive in each other that affects who they want to date and you need to see things from the bigger picture rather than just focusing on those two things.
You can be assertive, dominant, confident, well-dressed (by that I just mean clean clothes at least), smell good, funny, honest, and nice. Those are all qualities many women find attractive.
For the record. If you're determining what kind of person you are going to be in life simply because you want to get a girl, then you have self-esteem issues you need to work on first. That will significantly increase you're odds in the dating world.
You should NOT be a nice guy just to get girls. You should be a nice guy because that is who you are and choose to be regardless of the outcomes/benefits it may or may not bring you.2