We are 21 and 22 years old and we still live with his parents. I have a full time job and work 5-6 days a week. Whereas he doesn't do anything but sit at home and play video games or doing a bunch of irrelevant things for his parents around the house and yard.
He will make comments about wanting to save up money for our own place and says things like "Yeah I really need a job" but never commits to his statements. He knows I can't do it alone.
His mother is in no way helping the situation. I pay her $100 a week to stay here, plus I buy all of the household needs (shampoos, laundry soaps, toilet paper, dog food for her dog, dish soap, cigarettes, and always chip in for fire wood and propane). She also is collecting food stamps for me, my daughter and my boyfriend - which I was unaware of until two weeks ago. She is always yelling at my boyfriend and telling him to get a job but then will turn around and tell him that he can't work Monday through Friday until after 5pm because he needs to watch his brothers for her and he can't work anywhere that's too far away (which leaves literally two stores to choose from who aren't hiring).
We had our own place two years ago a and she was a huge part as to why we had to move out. I worked full time and he had a part time job right down the street. She would come pick him up randomly and make him miss work because she "needed him". So he lost his job and I couldn't afford the place on my own.
With her influence, he is clinging to this "free housing" (as he calls it, though I'm spending $700+ a month to be here) and is not motivated to get a real job. What can I do?
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Ask him to come up with a well thought out plan that includes you and your kids (his family) to live independently.1