I did an experiment for past two days and found that White men do better in the dating world. I put a profile on OkCupid and took a picture of an average white man off Google images and found something interesting. While I open my own OkCupid in about a week ago I only got 3 likes and 4 views and no messages. The fake profile with a white man I got already 3 likes a message and 3 views. Amazing. So skin color does factor in my potential mates. So now I'm saving up money to find a place where I can get my skin bleached so I can be white too. Then I know I can get more views online and even some messages. Here is one more thing I filled my profile of what I like and what not and the fake profile I put about couple likes and still get more attention and better results than I do. That further proves my point.
Yeah, I do really need to have my skin bleached to have the slightest chance in this dating world. That test proves this. If I were to post my picture on here I'm sure you ladies would agree I have it bleached. Unless your a brown skin woman you will be okay but if your a brown skin man like me you will be throw all the way to the bottom of the list. In other words no chance because brown skin is ugly. That is my conclusion.
While in general online dating is tough its more tougher for guy who isn't light skin. That is the sad truth.
I know there is lot of suggestion of me tryinga site for darker skin people but there is not one according to Google search. I was wondering do anyone know on here where I can have my skin bleached. I was born and raised in San Francisco and I hate leave my city because of this. So I rather go for skin bleaching to make me look white than to leave my own city.
Look, as a brown woman (south Asian descent), I've gotta say we just have to accept any disadvantage that might exist and realize it won't be a big deal in the grand scheme of things since we live in a multicultural society. It's a blessing that there are many open-minded people these days compared to the past. At the end of the day, you want one person to settle with or maybe casual sex or dating with a handful.. whatever. There are so many people out there so you still will have many choices. Maybe it won't be thousands of choices but hundreds, and that's still a ton of people. Just work with what you've got, you've only got one life and it's not worth it to put your health at jeopardy or sulking in self-pity at something you can't really change.
If you think lightening up a little will help, you can do that fairly safely so go for it. It's no different than people wanting a little tan. Consistent use of sunblock, proper exfoliation, occasional chemical peels can all help.
Just work on being the best version of your self you can be, get a nice haircut, rock a nice style and do a wardrobe change if necessary, work on your charisma, and put yourself out there. You conclusion may be true, but who cares? What will that do for your life but hold you back? Unless you can accept it and keep going.
You really need a self confidence booster. Skin colour doesn't make a person ugly at all. So what you may be darker but that's no reason to bleach your skin. Because to me it shows that you'd rather do this for dating rather than yourself. And why bleach your skin? I can't imagine the health risks of that at all. All you need to do is accept your body and whatever skin colour you are and know that not the whole population likes white people to date. There are probably so many girls who want to date you with the colour you are now but you're ignoring the signs. Your skin colour doesn't define you or your attractiveness.
I've learned the opposite. It might be where you live because black and Hispanic men are considered more attractive than white men where I'm at. I'm up north though. Don't bleach your skin you should be proud of how you look. The amount of attention you receive shouldn't affect how u feel about yourself
Stop, love your skin! You do not need to bleach. Try a different dating site, there are sites catered to just specific skintones. Unfortunately it is true that white males have an advantage on dating sites but don't let it get to you. Just continue on searching for what you're looking for.
Maybe there are more white girls on dating websites, did you check that? People tend to date only within their own race. I think black/brown or darker men can be really hot and i prefer guys who are a bit darker rather than white pale ones, but maybe thats because I'm not "extremely white" myself either. Everything doesn't depend on your skintone, there are so many other things that are important, like hair (!!), sense of style and clothing, personality, facial hair etc.
Don't look for love online... explore the world... if it was between your picture and channing tatum's , then yeah they'd go for channing because he's hot, but thas just a picture, you are more than just a picture, you need to be confident in who you are and what you look like and go out places and eventually love will find you and love you for you.
It is so sad to me that your conclusion is that you need to start bleaching your skin as if something is wrong with you. I'm not saying it isn't hard out there for darker skinned people in general, but deciding you have to be something you're not to please someone else is not being yourself at all, and I would find it a bit disturbing too.
It's not the color of your skin, it's simply that online dating really sucks so bad for guys, no matter what race are you. Just think about it, girls get a bunch of messages of different guys who are interested in knowing them, so they can pretty decide and choose who they want to date and obviously they are going to go with the most attractive guy out of the hundreds of guys that send them a message. Online dating is pretty much like playing the wheel of fortune, you have be extremely lucky to get a reply back from a girl and when you do you have to make sure you actually maintain the conversation interesting otherwise you loose her interest. I am telling you because I had the same mediocre luck in this online dating thing... Though, I have to say that I did got some couple of reply from girls I message, and even two girls who initiated a message to me but who I had no interest in meeting... and the another girl who at the beginning show interested in me and wanted to actually go on date with but who later out of the blue mysteriously disappear without replying back to request of telling the day and time when we were supposed to meet. Ayways, with all honesty, your best thing to do in case you really want to find a girl that you like and want to date is to go out there and find that girl outside, as you are not going to have any luck finding a girl in the online dating thing. It's just a waist of time for guys. I know what I am telling you.
I'm white and I prefer black, mixed, latina then white women. you should check other sites.
It's the truth. There have been studies done that black/asian men are the least desired in online dating. I am mixed race too, so I know what you mean. Mind you, white people have advantages in all aspects of life
Yeah, girls with self-respect will always prefer a white dude.