So I have a friend with extra benefits type relationship with a guy! He's super handsome & very sweet & it's not like a friends with benefits with NO strings attached type thing, it's more than that but we're not in a relationship bc we want to become best friends before trying a relationship! So long story short, at first we would text every single day, all day! & now just recently, he may text me my morning text & we may text like 5 texts after that in the morning & then he will read my text & never reply dude lol! & then I have to wait all the way til the next Morning before I get another text & the same thing happens! We send a few texts & then he reads it & never replies to it! & recently, he may skip a day without texting me at all & I will not contact him because I'm always the last one to text him anyway lol & so when I don't text him, the next day he will end up texting me! He did warn me when we first started this THINGship lol that some days we wouldn't talk bc he be real busy & stuff but my thing is, there were times when he was SUPER busy & he still managed to talk to me throughout the day but he's stopped now! So I'm thinking about beating him at his own little game! I call it a game bc I don't think anyone is soo busy that they can't send one "i miss u" or "I'm thinking of u" text? Lol like come on now! He also said he's not by his phone 24/7 which I understand cuz people have lives to live lol but I mean we may talk at 9 in the morning & then after that I don't hear ANYTHING else from him! So, I'm thinking of doing the same thing to him so that he can know how it feels ya know? So I plan to wait for my good morning text lol & then send him a text & then at some point after a couple of texts, I will do exactly what he does to me & just read it & not even reply lol & then maybe text him the next day! Or who knows I might even wait to see if he texts ME the next day lol! I think it will show him how I be feeling when he does that! What y'all think?
- Yes, definitely try your strategy out! It could show him exactly what he's doing to u & how u feel!Vote A
- No, not a very good idea! It's sort of childish!Vote B
Most Helpful Guy
So. wait. first of all you sleep with people before you are even friends? I was raised to have it the other way around. Sounds like you are getting quite attatched. It's time to have a "talk," to find out if he wants a relationship that's more emotionally investing. Sounds like you are just his booty call. so it doesn't sound like he'll want one. But yeah, why play games, find out and move on if that's the case.0
Most Helpful Girl
maybe it's because you text "lol" way too much... just in this text I counted 7 lol's and, frankly, it's a bit annoying. Maybe you text too much in general and he is backing off a bit to calm things down.
you should not start the game playing. It is childish and will not solve anything. And being friends with benefits before entering a relationship is nonsense. You either are friends, fall in love and get commited or you are just fucking and are friends.
If you are catching feelings (obviously) sit down together and have "the talk". Be ready to not hear what you are hoping for.0