I noticed a pattern with my dating life. I'm 21.. I talk to guys frequently and get asked out a lot. With guys who I know I could never actually date romantically due to different interests, personalities, etc. & there isn't a click, I find no problem kissing and making out with among other things (and right away as well). But then with guys I find so interesting and want to actually date them, who I value more, I don't want to kiss them right away or do anything sexual until like a month in. Is that normal? Is that a good thing? Do guys understand this? If I tell this guy I'm seeing right now that I want to wait, he should understand why? And not take it as disinterest but that I value and respect him more?
Most Helpful Guy
I think I understand it. Guys you are serious with you are going to want to put your best foot forward, and same for us choosing girls. You need a quality mate that respects you and sees you for more than a cheap fuck. You want to be able to introduce them to your family or your parents and have some recognition from them for choosing an excellent potential mate. You are not going to show them crud you picked up or cheap flings you found.
I think its normal to show your best in getting a potential life partner.1
Most Helpful Girl
makes sense to me. when you value something you want to be careful with it also you want to experience thew whole thing each step not just get it all over with.,
its like an excellent meal you savor but if you're just really hungry you have crackers and there's not much to savor just does the job.
a lot of guys seem to think if you really like them roll want to fck immediately but i think some will understand. the ones who also like to take their time with women they really like,
i dont think one way or the other is righter or wrong. i think yo can genuinely be passionate about a person and want them immediately and you can genuinely be passionate and want to take time. probably depends upon your history and howe trusting you are etc and if you're into immediate gratification or not. but its all whatever you want.
i just happen to understand your position.1