My girlfriend said that I'm controlling because I felt uncomfortable with her going to the movies alone with a guy she barely knows. We've been dating for 2 years, but she only talked to the guy a few months ago. Plus, she wanted to hangout at his house after the movie. The guy ended up apologizing to me for not asking me if it was okay. He even said he would feel uncomfortable if he had a girlfriend who wanted to have alone time with another guy. It was the guy I didn't trust, NOT her. Basically, because he tried to flirt at first while her and I were on the phone. I NEVER tell her she can't go anywhere or do anything. That would be crossing the line. I do let her know when something makes me feel uncomfortable, which is not often. She says being uncomfortable means I'm controlling. I don't see how when I don't tell her what to do. Long story short, am I being controlling by being uncomfortable with that situation? Or is it her trying to twist things up?
Most Helpful Girl
No and I think your girlfriend is in the wrong as well. She has no business going to a movie with a random guy then going to his house after? That's just weird. She needs to be asking herself the question of would she be okay with you doing that with a other girl. Evaluate your relationship.1
Most Helpful Guy
I dont think so :/
I think labeling you controlling is just a tactic to emotionally manipulate you by shaming you for expressing concern. This may not be the mature way to handle things, but you could make a new female friend and go to the movies with her. If your girlfriend has a problem then she's a hypocrite.0
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