Is there any good guys out there?

i know that question seems a little extreme but honestly I'm losing faith in the male gender, I need someone to convince me that not all guys are cheaters or just looking for sex. all the guys I seem to find that all they are about...even my best guy friends all they do is find girls to have sleep with, even the ones with girlfriends. I have had countless boyfriends cheat on me and I have had countless guys with girlfriends hit on me...even my best girlfriends boyfriends have tried sweet talking me...all this has lead me to have a lot of trust issues with guys...sorry guys if this is offensive, but try to change that opinion and give me some input as to why guys ask like this.

Updates:
*why guys act like this?
oh I have the biggest open heart btw...I'm friendly to every guy because I've been trying to find that good one.
u guys are making a lot of wrong judgments and assumptions about me.
i must say I do like the discussion we are getting into...a lot of good things being said. thank you all.
"Try hitting on a attractive shy guy and see what happens. He'll get excited/scared at first. However when he warms up to you may be VERY surprised."---so that worked and I finally found a guy and I couldn't be happier in my relationship.
wow I can't believe this post is still active. anyway things with the guy are still going great,he is the sweetest most caring guy and I'm very lucky to have found him. thank you all who responded. I now believe there are good guys out there.
 

What's Your Opinion?

0/2000

Most Helpful Opinion

  • As a good guy I'll help you out with this one. 1. You have to know what type of guy you want. Once you know what you want then it makes things a little easier. 2. Every guy out there knows by now what every girl wants to hear, so they feed it to you and because the deceivers all say the right thing, you're unable to tell the difference between the good and the bad. For once, listen to what a man says and hold him accountable for it. Don't go on chanting you found the one when you haven't even given him a chance to prove himself yet. Many women indulge in sex too soon and find themselves played. Allow a man to prove his words true only through action and NOTHING else or else you lose every time. 3. USE YOUR HEAD! Stop allowing your heart to lead you until the coast is clear. "Look both ways before crossing the street," they say, because you just might get hit. The heart is deceiving and is controlled by emotion and trust me, any act of emotion isn't logical nor ethical. Learn to think with your head. It's almost like solving a math problem. 4. Project yourself as good you will find good, but you project as bad...you get my point. In order to get respect from any man, you must first respect yourself. I see too many women out there disrespecting themselves and demanding respect. Doesn't work that way. Too many women sleep with men they barely know and wonder why he doesn't come around anymore. I can go on and on but I'll let you digest this first. Hope I was able to help you. Good luck!

    • I love this answer. You are so right about needing to respect yourself. Unfortunately there is such a culture now that glorifies women's sexuality in a way that makes casual sex look "cool" and treats FWB and hookups as something that women in the know should do. Never base life decisions on what TV and film makers are making money off of. Base it on good old-fashioned values and common sense. Respect yourself if you want a respectable guy.

    • Its hard to follow these steps but I'll try

    • Aww, it's so cute when a cute guy gets all nervous and scared. It makes me want to hug him and comfort him. haha

    • Show Older

What Guys Said 97

  • I'm a good guy...LMAO... uh, you gotta admit that was my funniest jest yet. Uuuhhh, I kill me... LOL

  • You must be beautyful. cause that's why they want to be with you. Well, a lot of males think that females want to be with them because of the money or fame.On the other hand, a lot of females think that males want to be with them because of sex or something else.

  • wow, last update was great :O

  • here's a good guy!

  • yea there is. I am. Maybe you are attracting the wrong kind of guy around you. Be more friends with a guy not a girl. your always going to get a few guys that are not what you want. Don't let a guy jerk you around. you deserve a good guy. make him earn it as well as reward when he does. Maybe it is the reason we are called Dogs! lol

  • It looks like there are a lot of comments already so I will answer your question. briefly. Yes, but they are hard to find. Try shy guys, seriously. I actually consider myself one, and almost all of my friends are the immature guys who constantly womanize and try to 'get laid'. But, good guys are definitely out there. Good luck!

  • Awesome! I hope the new guy continues to sustain your faith in guys.

  • congrats! I'm happy for you =)

  • I'd like to say I'm a "good guy" but I cheated... sort of. (It's a long story and it didn't happen like your typical movie).But moving on.There are "good guys" the problem is, when guys are about 16-20 they learn, really fast, that girls don't like good guys. Sure, they'll like them as a friend, but they tend to go after 'bad guys'. The good guys go home cry into their Twilight books and turn gay. (Or something like that).More seriously, if you want a "good guy" you'll have to hang out in the right places. A singles bar is probably just going to find guys looking for a shag, potentially cheating on their wives. Where as a open mic nightclub, church (if that's your thing), supermarket, some sort of school (learn Italian class eg), and so on is where you'll find a good guy.As a real simple rule. A good guy is a nerd (not always, but you get the idea). Flock to where nerds are and you'll find one.

  • Men are corrupt. But it's not their fault. It's been ingrained into them that the amount of beautiful girls that they've slept with has a direct correlation to their worth. Even though this is not so and many of them know it, social pressures and desire for acceptance get the better of them. It's really unfortunate that this is the experience you've had with men. Not all men are bad. Most of them are just conformists. -AustinAnchorage, AK

  • it happens to everyone... the only person who can help you besides God is Father Time (experience)

  • Yes. There are a few good guys left. Chivalry is not dead...merely gasping for breath. I'm 21 years old, still waiting for GF#1. There are guys like me who believe it is best to wait for the right girl...and not go breaking hearts and fouling up girls innocence until they find one they like. My advice for finding a guy who wants more than sex? Find one who hasn't had it yet.

  • I seem that no guy is the same some think with their d***s and some think with their heart

  • Best thing is get confidence. I hate to be in your face but its mainly your fault. your the one with the guy so do some more investigating.

  • simple your looking in all the wrong placesoryour method of presenting yourself give guys the impression that your nothing but a play thing if you get my meaningthere are good guys and bad guysthere are good girls and bad girls ;p

  • not all guys are like that because look at me, I'm here. I don't go out with every girl I see, mostly the ones that know me and I am friends with. I would never flirt while I have a girl friend and am abstinent. but you have your oppinion so be careful with who you sorround yourself with. that's my advice

  • Well, there's me, but I'm married

  • There ARE good guys out there... Trouble is, you girls just let us slip right under the radar, because we're not "fun", meaning: loud, obnoxious, arrogant, cocky, or cause a bunch of unnecessary drama...Us good guys, may be a little quieter, shyer, maybe sometimes a little awkward. But I'll tell you one thing we have that the cocky jerk doesn't have... A heart. It's us good guys that are in relationships for the right reasons, that let ourselves be vulnerable like anyone in love should. It's too bad that most girls are so used to being with "Mr. Tough Guy" (or some guy that can't even respect himself, let alone his girl) that they don't see the value in our shyness or awkwardness or us making ourselves vulnerable if we DO actually work up the courage to make a move on her...Instead, it's a lot of good guys getting labeled as creeps or "weird" because of our good nature and putting ourselves out there... Any REAL man will show his emotions, especially to the one he loves. It's not about being "Mr. Macho" or looking for someone to "fix" because they have a million issues. It's about finding someone that is ALREADY good enough for you and that you can be vulnerable around each other and trust each other and be emotional together. To me that would be the greatest relationship.The sad thing is, a lot of people don't know what it means to LOVE... all the world seems to know anymore is LUST. It's in our popular music, our entertainment... LUST is, sadly, glorified in our society and it has an effect on most. LOVE is something different.Do good guys exist? Most certainly... You just need to open your heart to new and different things/people/etc. It's a shame a lot of us good guys have to wait around a while for love, girls are most definitely missing out. But I guess there's a time and a place for everything.

  • it doesn't always have to do with the guys, look for different types of guys and also I'm with someone and we've never slept together and I don't go looking for sex and I'm happy with how things are. look for different guys than you've been looking into

  • 2 past girlfriends have cheated on me. not like all out f***ing around, but when they were drunk they would makeout with another guy or something. it doesn't matter what gender they are, it matters how much of a standup individual they are. A man (or woman) is only as good as their word, if they don't have that, they are good for nothing. I've never cheated, and never will.

  • of course there are good guys, but you girls have your heads up your butt because you want guys that are hot and while you say you care about personality, your just like men, you really don't so you ignore guys like me who are not that good lookin, but have a great heart and will love you better than anyone else. Same goes for guys too, most of them jsut want a hot bod, even I want someone somewhat attractive, so of course there are good guys, but you probably have ignored them, and will continue until your heart gets broken too much.

  • Well, I consider myself a good guy. But, I guess you'd have to get verification from a bunch of people I know. I'm sure if you did you'd find out that good guys do exist.

  • Haha well I agree with you 99.9% of guys are jerks (or worse) towards girls. Try to find the quiet and sensitive ones, and I'v found that strong christians are part of the .1% Hope it helps =D

  • read... link

  • Dont lose fail in me ( not so much the other guys). This is totally why I don't have many male friends. I prefer relationship to sex anyday. I can't deny that if girls were smarter, and listened to their male friends and fathers about what guys really want, they wouldn't get played so much.

  • I just want to get this out there.Change your display picture.You don't need to be showing guys your t*ts when you tell them you want a dream guy.That's just hilarious.And 2. You should read. "I hope they serve beer in hell."Now take that and ask yourself this question.Women have no faith in guys. And guys have no faith in women.You have to be mature enough to find someone that you can settle down with.And stop with all the excuses and bullsh*t drama that people go through nowadays.It's all a waste of time, and I hate people who waste my time personally.So just think about everyone else.

  • You see all those guys in the bar that NEVER approach you? Those are the ones that won't treat you like this. Yet you often sit in the corner and wait to be approached right? But guess who approaches you. A player. A good amount of guys don't have enough nerve to just jump into your life. For all they know you could be taken, really busy, or even gay. And if it's the first one and Mr. Fabulous walks in while he makes his move it won't end well. If you walk up to him, he's taken and the girl is even sitting next to him... What's the chance she's going to go off and punch you in the face? Men really are defensive and most likely would react in some way. Either it be just chasing them off or an actual fight, a lot of guys will have this insecurity... nevermind being turned down just-because..

  • Sorry to say that road rounds both ways honey, I was once a nice looking guy and women would flaunt all over. I then had a spinal injury in the millitary and was crippled, in those 2+ years I only had one girl notice me. I recently recovered and I'm back to before, such experience opens your eyes that society is all vanity based. Life is inherenlty a beatuy pageant I would say, the allure ofobeauty then drives sex from a psychological aspect. And I would agree with the best anaswer as someone whoes lived both sides and is also educated in psych. Women are just as shalloow as men, ans like best asnwer said women look for men in the wrong enviromnemts and there attracted to the wrong facets of interaction dynamics. So I would ask are there any good people out there?

  • Like most girls your age you are probably retarded when it comes to judging guys and deciding which kind you like. No offense. Most girls have male "friends" they reject and ignore to chase after the assholes and then they complain to that nice supporting friend(I am that guy usually) ANd its frusturating as hell for us. Yeah we want sex too though. The "nice guys" who get walked all over are wanting someone to make out with and make love too as well there's no shame in that. They are kinda insecure for them it has a lot to do with their self esteem they are wishing a women wouldn't just see him for having an interesting conversation helping with her homework "being like a brother to her" but as someone exciting romantic and/or sexy. I have always wanted to be both. A lot of girls have told me your a good friend lets just be friends. So its like If I never want to get laid I can just keep being who I really am but If I wanted you to be my actual girlfriend Ishould never been friendly to you in the first place Well blah blah I don't want to complain too much about the bullsh*t of high school days. Other than to say a lot of girls are cold ego boosting players themselves with no respect for men or their feelings and though it is basically true we are all horny with strong sexual urges many of us care about women on a deeper level as well. Sure sometimes I find a girl sexy who I don't care about but on the flip side If I care about a girl a lot and she's not way younger or older than me I tend to find her sexually attractive. I think a lot of guys are afraid to show their feelings and be more gentle romantic because they have gotten rejection and pretty harsh expectations from other guys and girls. No guys whos not gay wants to be called gay. And women are part of the problem here. They are stuck on a hollywood version of "real men" and through their cold shoulder they punish guys who don't conform to it and reward those that do.

    • There are lot of good guys in the world. You are not noticing them. Boys are pretty retarded when it comes to judging girls as well. Also sometime if you see a guy you think is "good" by your standards sometimes you have to make a move, you don't necessarily have to ask him out but if you start a conversation with him and look him in the eye he will know you are interested in him

    • I can relate. I find it very hard to find a good girl who doesn't have a boyfriend

    • Im fina b 17 and I am not retarded @ all. I agree with the that mahority are. I know what I want yet all I get is the thirsty ass worthless niggas.

  • I'm studying neuroscience and psychology, but that aside for now, from my personal experiences, both genders, if given the right circumstances, will sleep with each other despite being in a serious relationship. We are made this way as many have answered, and you are made to be attracted to the dominant, aggressive, confident male whose underlying objective is to sleep with as many women as possible. Because they can. Men who cannot often are not worth your time, even though they will be loyal. The more high demand --> the less prone a person is to dedicating oneself completely to any particular demand. We seek novelty and learning/experiencing new things. If we can do this, we will. Nature doesn't care about who gets hurt or abused or cheated on as long as it can perpetuate itself.

  • v are lik dis cos v are MADE lik disa guy's objective is to giv his sperm to as many females as posible to spread d genesbut gals are completly oppositso it ain't any1's faultitz evolution

  • To be honest, there are good guys, but there a difference between good guys and guys who're angels(not having any sexual intentions). Even the best guys have sexual intentions at the back of their mind. Let us just say it's the biological factor of wanting most offsprings with their own genes that makes guys that way

  • i was going to say it, but I just noticed "dvdkn7" said it first, you've experienced a small portion of males. I'm trying not to make assumptions about you, like you said. but depending on where you spend a lot of time it may be the wrong place to meet relationship material guys. clubs, bars, even malls, and you'll find the jerks. do this little project though: go out to a mall anddon't try to talk to any guys, you're just observing this time. if a guy comes up to you, try to notice all the other guys around that are noticing you. there are exceptions to the rule, but more often than not they are the quiet and shy type. those are the ones that you might not have experienced yet. and don't assume anything about them just like you said you don't want assumptions about you. they are people and they have just as interesting, possibly more interesting, life story under the shell and behind their walls. give them a chance, be patient with getting them to break down their walls, and see what you find :)

  • The better question is why many girls are fooled so easily by not-so-nice guys?The old story of the Wolf in Sheep's Clothing has part of the answer. The truth is that most of the not-so-nice guys go out of their way to trick girls like you and your friends. Then when a good guy really does show up, you've become so cynical that you slam the door in his face because you assume that every sheep is really a wolf.How can you improve your sense of who is a wolf in disguise and who isn't? Well the first thing is to not just look at how the guy treats you, but what he's really like as a person. What is his internal moral code? Does he even have one? Unless he's a total sociopath, he's not going to wear the disguise 24/7.The problem is getting to know him well enough that you see when he takes off his disguise. Of course, there's probably a part of you that doesn't want to see the disguise. He says and does all the right things just for you, so you overlook all the signs that would reveal he's not the person he's claiming to be. This is common, so that's also why your friends happened to end up with guys like that. It's also common for guys to make the same mistake with girls.Part of the problem is that there really are a lot of crappy people (guys and girls), and we've grown up in a "me" generation where we're encouraged to be narcissistic and put ourselves before others. There are still guys who would refuse to cheat even when tempted, because they know it's wrong but you gotta find someone who has strong moral convictions. Someone who knows the meaning of the word "shame". Unfortunately, in today's society, people who have morals are often times portrayed as prudish or unsexy, so you have to overcome the cultural brainwashing.

  • Yes.1000's of them.Women label them 'nice' and treat them as 'friends'You said you have had COUNTLESS guys cheat on you and use you for sex...er...is there a pattern emerging here?

  • Stop blaming men for your problems. YOU choose to be with them. They aren't forcing you to do anything. Act like a mature adult who is in control of your life and stop placing the blame on men who want sex. You're in no position to tell a man what he should want or do.

  • I will answer your question, and you can listen to the restof these human bodies with d***s, or you can listen to me.Girls seek something different unconsciously, they constantly test guys even when they don't really take time to think about it. 99% of the guys play the nice guy sweet game with a girl, and if you think about it, girls get hit up by guys on a daily basis up to 25 times a day if you're somewhere up on that scale you should be getting somewhere near that number. The thing is, that women nowadays get so bored and even turned off by the indifferent idiots who try to seduce them and get their little d***s wet... If you look at it from an ‘economic’ standpoint, itdoesn’t benefit women at all to have their man runningaround having sex with other women. She can only bepregnant with one child at a time, and she can only raisea limited number at a time. So having a man who’s outspreading his seed is BAD BAD BAD for business for her.I personally believe that men are hard-wired to lookfor sexual opportunities and seek out sexual variety.My perspective is that sleeping with different womenbreaks no ‘law of the universe’, and it’s not an ethicaldilemma for me. Any objections that are in existencewere created mostly to control and not to liberate. Myperspective is also that it’s important to be honest withpeople about your views. And yes, this means talking towomen about them. In my life, I’ve mostly had long-termgirlfriends. And if I tell a woman that I’m going to befaithful, then I am. So instead of telling people that theyare making wrong judgments about YOU, check yourselfbefore you make judgments about the 1% of the guys whoare like me, and MAYBE you'll find the right one...Good Luck!

  • Why is it so bad to want sex with more than one beautiful woman? Perhaps you make to much of sex -- which is really just about evolutionary survival. A guy can love you, and want to be in a long-term relationship with you, but still want sex with other pretty girls. Perhaps you should not try so hard to find that "good" one (who often is just a guy so unappealing, he attracts no other females), but rather re evaluate why YOU are so hung up on sex. By the way -- message me and maybe we can hook up!

  • If the guys your finding aren't what your looking for try a different venue. Bars and malls don't always have the best pickings.

  • haha saw someone say that the nerdiest and geekiest dudes can also be the biggest losers. AGREED. don't just fix your eyes on them nerds if you want to find a good guy. go check out the deeply principled guys. sure, some of their principles might be sticks up your nose, but then maybe you have to go check yourself as well.

  • Show More

What Girls Said 19

  • Hi there,Hm,say I have been knowing heaps of guys and I am losing faith in them.Guys always attract to girls but some or most of them are interested in sex and a dude I knew was about to get married right and he cheated on her but she didn't know and his guys covered for him for 5-6 years. I was told I hooked up with one of the guy in the group but I didn't but well, the dude didn't trust me but his guys. Guys have the things for their mates and it is hard to digest and if we say sh7t about their friends, they get angry but if they tell us how bad their friends are, that's OK. I got sh7t for what I didn't do and I was told to be deluded and guys even let a cheater to tell him I was a liar!You should keep going out and making friends but before you try to talk to anyone, make sure their friends aare good. Nice people might end up being in a retarded groups of gangster wanna be or dikhead or cheaters and if these people see some potential in you, changing their mate or watever risk, they will get bk on you the sh7ttest way. No offense to any nice guys here but I have seen enough guys to groups cheating is a fab for guys and guy like my best friend is somehow taken or dead !

  • My case is quite the opposite I had the guy who doted with anything with boobs and legs ha ha or rather I should say have. I hink that if you put up a front of being too open some Guys will want to take advantage of your over friendliness. Sometimes being picky and saying what you want up front won't decieve a guy into thinking you're someone who'll just give it up with no regrets or hesitation

  • i agree with what you say what guys out there are like in the fairy tales?

  • the key is friendly, and that seems to be your problem. if you're friendly all the time, then you're just looking for men who will take advantage of you. honesty is the key. if you could read their minds and move past the "easy target" then having a challenge could get you a great guy at bay.eg. say that there a hot guy who's interested. and you've got him all attracted and stuff and he's got all the signs of sex, sex, sex... at that time, try:"I can't be with you, you're not what I'm looking for. (walks away)"he asks, "why?"you answer, "you not looking for a girlfriend. you're looking for a piece of ass and frankly, I have better things to do (list your activities here), than to waste my time on sex."by then, you're gonna find out if this guy wants sex or if he's a good guy. but given that he's gonna try to impress you (signs of potential good guy), make him work for it to get you. try negotiation.by now, using the good of your judgement, you can decide if you wanna stay with this guy or not.

  • I have had both a fake good guy, and an actual good guy. You know it when you meet him. it was just too bad his heart was still bruised.

  • I have to say that many guys are searching for something to make then feel fullfilled and I have learned many times never ever put all your eggs into one basket. Maybe one of the reasons guys go to you is because they think you may be easy.. The harder you are to get the more interested guys get. Most guys like the hard one cas its a challenge and that's not all guys but good luck finding one that isn't this way.

  • well trust me there's good guys out there you're just picking the dumb ones. some guys cheat but look deeper and you will find that guy that you want that don't want just sex and who will treat you with respect and who wouldn't cheat on you you are pretty you shouldnt have to look let the boys come to you and just be careful

  • There are a lot of good guys out there. You might be chosing the wrong guy friends, in terms of examples of a typical guy. You are definitely choosing the wrong guys. They will give you signs early on that they are cheaters/untrustworthy.You are missing or overlooking the clues. Keep your eyes open and have a trusted friend help you assess guys you start dating. You might find the good ones boring because they are consistent. You don't have to chase them. They are less charming and more down to earth. Some girls find those qualities boring.

  • Oh...I only read the title, and my answer is yes, but they're SUCH chickens! It's INCREDIBLE! But I guess you can't expect everything, so you get a bad guy, or you just never get the good one. It's sad really... [this is just my experience]

  • It took my 8 years to find a good guy, but I lost him... But there are good guy's out there. Not many, but there is. It just might take awhile to get him. But trust me they are out there.

  • well I think if you give life patince it will all come to you and maybe that guy will come even sooner than you expect... you just have to be pactint

  • HI,Well I'm going out with the perfect guy, He's sweet, kind, thoughful and loving, There is a perfect guy out there for you defenetly I've found mine so go find yours. :DBY L

  • a males brain is tunes to think about sex over feelings.., just like we are ment to do opposite..male and female.. are opposites.. you have to work ur way around that.ur obviously going in for the wrong approach.u can't change a man, ull only hurt ur self tryingguys need a girl to sleep with..but if you show him that ur not that easy, and he keeps trying.. that's where you can catch him..the longer you keep it in ur pants and he sticks around the better.guys all think of sex first. give them something else to think about.show him ur great personality, ur fun and wild side and share his interests.. show him uu have respect for yourself and he will respect you.there are good guys out there, and I know by experience how hard they are to findbut you will find one eventually..think of the bad guys as expereince, you now know what NOT to look for!

  • There are good guys, bad guys, good guys who are now bad guys, bad guys who became good, guys who are in between depending on the colour scheme, guys who are broken, guys who are strong, guys who are a subtle combination of a complicated thinking, guys who cry, guys who cook, guys who like video games at 50, guys who paint, there are all kinds of guys and they are all different and they all have things in common in varying degrees. There's just one kind of guy that don't exist: a perfect one.Guys change, girls change and people change all the time as well. You have a great big open heart and he will find you.Cheating is awful, hurtful etc...but its always going to be possible and I think that it shouldn't ever become a fear. Because when that factor is taken out of the equation you can have a more trusting and quality relationship with someone.There are never gonna be any guarantees. Ever!

    • Don't expect perfection, only strive for it always...

  • yeah I have gotten into that phase as well where I doubt or find it rare to find a decent guy who has at least the basics- a good personality, a heart and some intelligence.

  • most guys are assholes! people can give all the politically correct answers they want but its not reality. you might have a few good guys that are few and far between but the vast majority of guys under 25-30 ain't about sh*t. girls are taught and conditioned to find a guy and fall in love...that is not what most guys are taught and conditioned to do. young guys are mainly sowing their wild oats and having fun. so basically they don't really give a f*** about girls all they are about is having sex with as many girls as possible. if you get hurt oh well, that's not their problem. so basically what you should do is put a wall up, trust very little and be super observant. don't give your heart or trust easily. make him work for it and prove he's not like all the other guys. don't have sex early on...guys who are looking for sex will run the other way and guys who just wanna f*** will leave you alone when they see that ur serious and not easily convinced. don't believe every little thing they say, 90% of the time its a lie to get what they want. be friendly but cautious and don't trust easily.

    • Then go be a lesbian. That's not true men fall in love all the time and sacrifice everything for a woman. And plenty are good hearted. And plenty of women will go out with a guy and "trade up" when someone they think is better comes along, and plenty of women like to play mind games with guys. I have seen girls in the high school/college years that manage to string a whole harem of guys along. Lots of women are experts at getting guys to spend money on them.

    • I don't even know why I got 3 Thumbs Down, the guys who answered this question and even guys who refuted my statements still ended up proving my point. oh btw, all the women I know who eventually got married and have SUCCESSFUL long term relationships all followed by this practice. and guess what even though they were cautious of guys that came into their life they still found one who wanted to commit to them for life! so yeah, I'm right

    • I'm not saying they can't love. I think most guys do end up falling in love...usually after they have broken a few hearts. most guys aren't looking for a loving relationship actively, if they are they are the minority of guys. when guys are YOUNG by large they want to have a good time with the girls they find hot. yes there are girls who do that too but even girls who aren't like that fall can get played by guys too. like I said most guys want sex so girls have to be cautious or they get hurt.

    • Show Older
  • A lot of guys here responded saying they're nice, nerdy, respectful and all. I've fallen for them, but they leave me and then go for the ugly slut. So in a sense, while girls go for the jerk, nice guys go for the bitch. Nobody wins. Lol

    • True...or the second they receive attention from "someone better" they leave

    • Couldnt have said it better myself...and sometimes once you date a "nerd" they get a huge ego or too much self confidence and leave you for another girl. =[

  • *are

    • Yess you are correct..."are there any good guys out there?" thank you. =]

  • We only see what we are looking for. The more convinced we are that there are only guys out there cheating and looking for sex, that is what we will see. Change your mindset and you will start seeing the good guys that have been right under your nose the whole time.

    • Very true. Girls do jump into "love" way too quickly. They are already imagining what you will be like as a boyfriend when they really have no way of knowing, it's just all in our imaginations.

    • This is one of the better answers. I think when girls meet a guy they find physically attractive and emotionally stimulating they just swoon and think he's the best guy ever. They get too enthusiastic too quickly and get caught up in the excitement of finding someone new. Then they are surprised when a guy they basically just have a fling with dumps them or cheats on them; when they never truly knew what the guy was like; realistically they usually never establish a real bond, just a fling.

    • Very good advice

    • Show Older
Loading...