So i need some help as to what my girlfriend actually meant. Ok so this Saturday i was suppose to take her out to dinner but my friends are getting together and just going to chill on Saturday. Now i told my girlfriend i wanted to chill with my friends then she said "well you only see me 2 times a week though", then i told her how about next week then she was like "it's ok, fine then". So is that actually a NO or a yes? What does this really mean lol?
Yeeeah... so basically she's not as important to you as your friends. Cool story, bro.
It doesn't matter if it was a yes or a no (it was a no) because if you change your mind and say you'll see her then she'll know it was a pity toss on your part and then she REALLY won't want to see you.
So you done fucked up but can't go back now :p
So before her yes was a no and now her no is a yes and a screw you. :p
She originally wanted you to hang out with her. But you made the choice to hang out with your friends and so she said it was okay but it wasn't but now if you backtrack and hang out with her instead you're just going to piss her off even more.
For future reference: NEVER CANCEL PLANS WITH YOUR GIRLFRIEND UNLESS YOU'RE LITERALLY DYING. :P
Ok, yeah she's pissed... and worse now she ain't gonna want to go out with you now cause you already screwed the pooch. So here's how you deal with it. Cancel with your friends ASAP and unless you break up with her do not go out with your friends for any reason Saturday night cause you will never live it down.
Then go back to her and say you changed your mind and already cancelled with your friends. Never ever admit that you got advice from outside cause she'll feel better faster if she thinks you just found it in your heart to change all on your own. Lastly, she's likely to resist going out Saturday with you just bear with it, she'll get over it. The worst thing you can do is let her convince you that it really is ok to go with your friends cause it's a test. Even showing the slightest interest in that idea dooms you to failure.
She's pissed. You made plans with her, and you shouldn't put your friends before her. You definitely shouldn't cancel your date to just hang with friends. That's really insensitive and you'll push her away.
She's offended that you made your friends a priority over her, especially since your friends don't have anything special planned. She probably was looking forward to the dinner and feels disappointed. There's nothing you can do about Saturday because she won't want to go now that she knows you don't want to. The only thing you can do is make her more of a priority in the future.
Here's what she really meant, "wtf dude? I don't see you all that often and I really wanna hang out with you. You better not pick your friends over me, oh heLL nAh"- and that is the translation. We are strange, complicated creatures 😂
THAT IS A NO, IT IS THE EXACT OPPOSITE OF FINE!!! okay so clue 1) she tried to convince u to see her casually hence the "well you only see me two times a week though" clue 2) fine then: fine can b okay by itself but add a "then" to it and it definitely means she's upset (at least that's my opinion). Also try to avoid saying that ur ditching a date to "chill".
I highly doubt she's ok with that. "It's ok" almost always isn't ok. take her out to dinner! you can chill with your buddies any time, but since you only see her twice a week, take advantage of the time you have together. DON'T take her for granted! :)