I am nice and I like female friends who are nice and kind. So why do I like mean men?
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Couple things. First, you're looking for approval and validation. When you meet a guy who doesn't give it to you, you strive to get it from him. Or, they're nice to you up front and give you the validation you seek, then take it away. That creates a vacuum and you try to get it back to fill the void.
Second, you're not confident so you need someone to be in control. Controlling guys are often jerks.
Third, you're an 18-24 year old girl. Most girls I've met between 18 and 24 (and I've worked in a lot of restaurants so I've met many of them) go for jerks. If you start to google "why do girls like," two of the top three suggestions will be "jerks" and "bad boys," and each will have dozens of results. So you're not alone.
The reason for that is that 10,000 years ago, men who were controlling assholes were the leaders of their nomadic tribes. They were in charge, and the women saw them as having the best genes to pass on and most able to take care of and protect them and their offspring. Women look for those traits in men when they're in their early 20s (prime procreation age) because it's in their DNA. As long as you're working to get past it, you'll probably break the pattern by the time you're 28-30. Then you'll find a nice guy and marry him. He might not be that great looking though.
Just going off what I've seen 400 times.0