I've been seeing this guy for a little over 3 weeks now. We're kind of like a couple but not yet in a relationship. He said that we're going to that direction. Both had made it clear that we dont like it when either of us is close as in liking another guy/girl.
am i still allowed to see other people or no? Cause we're not in a relationship but kind of feels like we are.
... Both had made it clear that we don't like it when either of us is close as in liking another guy/girl. With no more writing on my own wall and all here, dear, it even looks like Now... You both are headed to Exclusive and Official. Unless you set him straight as soon as possible, that you are Interested in more looking and lurking, this is Telling me and it should beTelling you in the back of your own mind, He is serious and has potential partnership on his Own... Mind. Good luck. xx
It doesn't matter what you call it; in fact, deciding to call your relationship "official" or "dating" could be confusing, because those names may mean different things for the two of you. What you do need is to have a conversation where you talk about expectations and what you want from each other.
If both of you had made it clear you don't like it if one of you likes someone else, maybe you shouldn't see other people.
Or: if he was to nail some chick, rinse his balls off in the sink and then come pick you up for a dinner date, would you be cool with it? Because that's what 'allowed to see other people' potentially entails.
You can do whatever you want, but if you feel that you could be a couple, I would wonder why you would want to see other people, and he has expressed that he wouldn't like that. That being said, if he's not willing to commit to you fully, then it's his own fault if you find someone who is.
If things are going well I'd question why you'd want to date other people. You're allowed to but it's a terrible idea. There's no upside if he's a catch and the downsides include making him think you weren't serious/making him lose interest, developing feelings for two different people and heightened std risks for everyone involved.
I think this depends on communication, if you've voiced that you guys want to be monogamous even if you're not dating but "heading that direction", I know I wouldn't appreciate the guy I thought I was into was seeing other people even if we didn't put a title on it, it's still deceitful if you invest your time into someone and thinking that you will be monogamous. However it does differ for some people, some people don't feel entitled to be one person's "one and only" in the moment and want to play the field, but this can easily be misunderstood and lack of communication.
You are allowed since it's cheating but it's a bad idea if you ever want to be in a relationship with the guy. The second you try to flirt with someone else. Even if he doesn't have any saying on if you can or can not do that. It's going to hurt him and probably kill any chances you had with him.
I would ask him if the thinks it's find if y'all did that. If he doesn't reply and you catch him with someone else. Tell him you saw that and say you take it as it's fine for now.