My boyfriend is always straight-up about everything. He doesn't lie. So when my boyfriend (23) and I first started dating he said "oh I'd fuck her" (talking about his old babysitter who's almost 30) but later said he was joking. I don't know how it got brought up again about 7 months later today, but I brought it up again.
He said "if I was single, I would" and I said "do you want to be" he said "no, I'm pretty happy where I am" and I was like "would you still now?" And he said "if I was single or if I was with you?" And I said "both". He replied with "no"(about if he would fuck her). Straight-up told me no.
Should I still feel upset about this? I know he said he would if he was single but he did say no when I asked if he would either way. I know that he wouldn't lie to me and that if he wanted someone else, he wouldn't be with me. I feel like he was joking. Would you guys be upset about this? I'm just a really sensitive person. I personally think that he meant if he was single, which he isn't, he would obviously fuck other girls, but he doesn't want to be single and he's with me. He tells me that if he was interested in other girls he wouldn't be with me. What do you guys think?
This is a time where it would be a waste of energy to get worked up over it. You have given multiple reasons why you shouldn't be upset. I don't think you really are upset (though it's okay if you are. I totally get where you're coming from and how difficult it is to be a sensitive human).
No he doesn't want it, I was that open in my past relationship, she got hurt and it really showed me how insecure she was. 1. huge turn off 2. showed me her true colors, not her fake persona that a lot of women carry 3. Unable to express my real thoughts, makes me want to close myself off from a girl like that. I know that people still look, but i would rather be truthful backstabbing, it makes life and relationships a lot easier.
I have a boyfriend who's the same. Where he would never lie and honest 100% of the time.
No he's with you he doesn't want anyone else. Never start those kinds of arguments because you just go in circles. Since he's not lying to begin with. I know if I kept bringing something like that up to my boyfriend and acting upset. He would get really annoyed over it since he would see it that it's stupid since it doesn't matter. He's the same 100% honest all the time and always thinking logically.
It's hard but keep reminding yourself about how honest he is and just think about what fun things y'all do. Try to distract yourself.
That's very rude of him, and downright disrespectful. I never let a guy talk to me like that, his mama should have taught him some manners.
Also, I'll share my experience with you, so everything will be clear: My ex's brother (who was my boyfriend at the time) said he thought I was beautiful, intelligent, and that he would come on to me even harder if he wasn't with his girlfriend, with her being in the next room. Guess what, he cheated a couple of times on her after it, and maybe even before.
Just... Think for a second. That's my advice to you.