He is a truck driver and we have been together almost a year it's the holidays and he has gain a lot of weight over the year driving and just isn't attractive to me right now. He is much older and that doesn't help me wanting to take him to meet my family but I'm not that proud of how he looks. What should I do? he says he's trying to lose it but he does the opposite of what he says he's trying to do. I'm 20 he's 29
How am I shallow if I'm not basing his personality off of just how he looks because it usually means a man/woman who only judges by looks and not by personality. If I was going based straight off looks we wouldn't be together right now and it's just human attraction people lose attraction to one another if they change physically or in any other way.
You should stop being so god damned shallow and woman the fuck up, that's what you should do.. His looks shouldn't matter as long as his good personality is there. Some day your looks will go straight to shit too, mate, and you'll be regretting acting like a shitty person because of someone's looks fading since you'd be in the same position. You should be with a person because they love you and you love them, they treat you right, and because you have a special connection with them. Looks don't make a relationship, and you're going to have to get over the fact that it doesn't. If he's a good man then he deserves to meet your parents. Stop acting like one of those damned tumblr teens who care only about looks, and woman up. media.giphy.com/media/13py6c5BSnBkic/giphy.gif