I'm a sophomore in high school, and I've never been asked out before. I didn't really care until this year because I need a prom date. I think im pretty attractive, but I don't know I don't wear makeup due to my parents (I have thick eyelashes and my tone is fine--most people think I wear makeup) My parents are super strict on clothing, so I can't wear anything that'll show my ankles. But I still wear cute clothes everyday. I'm brown (Kashmiri), but I look Arab. My culture really means a lot to me, and I don't know if that's a turnoff; I hope I don't come off as too conservative, but I definitely flirt A LOT. I know "be yourself" and "wait till you're older," but why do you think im
not getting asked out?
Most Helpful Guy
Zero. Females rarely ask males out. And I was somewhat popular and viewed as attractive, too. Unless my ex was lying to me to make me feel good about myself, the girls in my class rated me a 9 out of 10. But I was always the one talking to other girls; they would talk to me, but never initiate anything.
In America, yeah, Arabic looking people might have a bit of a hard time due to the whole Middle East thing. You'd probably have more luck finding a guy who's more similar to you, of your culture, or even, yes, skin tone. It's not racist to say that--people tend to gravitate towards people who are like them. People also date and prefer people within their race more often than not. If you're in an area where there aren't as many Arab or Indian looking people, then that would be what I think.
Though, the last Arabic woman I worked with was soooooooooooooooooooooo hot. I was into her, but honestly, if she was really big into Arabic culture and such, it would create more of a cultural divide.
But, all in all, you could try being the one to ask someone out. I know, it's hard, right? But, if you know any guy from a class you've taken, you could just ask them if they'll go with you to prom. Not like a date, but just so you both have someone to go with: or yeah a date. It's not wrong, and most guys aren't going to think it's wrong or off-putting for a female to ask them out. In the U. S. or Western countries, at least. East/North-Asian/Middle Eastern countries might frown on it, I guess.
As for why you're not being asked out, it could be that your body language is nervous, or that you are attractive so the boys are nervous, or you're not talkative, or you actually *think* you're flirting but you're really just being nice (which is really common with females, honestly), or you're just unlucky and around the wrong boys. If there's time, you might think about joining some club or find some way to be around more people.0
Most Helpful Girl
Eh, a few times. Maybe 5? I was always very quiet and awkward, and I had a darker style back then, so I wasn't very approachable. You've got at least two more years after this if you want to go to prom, right? No rush! :)
There could be so many reasons you're not getting asked out. Maybe guys are intimidated, maybe they think they wouldn't be allowed to date you or that you'd reject them, maybe they're just shy, maybe maybe maybe. I mean, my cousin is super pretty, very friendly, outgoing, quirky in the best way... and she didn't get asked out until she went to college. It's still baffling to me. Point is, awesome girls fall through the cracks sometimes. Don't worry too much, and if you really want a prom date, why don't you do the asking?0