my wife is against me hanging out with my best friend (a female) without her, and was angry over me texting her. We hugged in front of my wife and she hit me. She hates it when I am at dinner or the gym with her, or when I play video games online with her. my bff is married, and her husband hates it when we spend time together. Both of us are married with no kids. We had drinks together, and both our spouses yelled at us when we returned home at 4AM. What do I do, if my wife will not let me spend time with my bff? We did date in college.
I definitely see where your wife is coming from! I would be jealous if my boyfriend did that. Not going to lie, I'd break up with him on the spot. I'm sorry to say, but I think something would be wrong if you came home at 4 in the morning.
BUT WHAT YOU SHOULD DO..
Do not hug your friend out in public, especially in front of your wife. Take your wife when it comes to dinner, not just your best friend. If her spouse and your wife yelled at you ESPECIALLY at 4 in the morning. Do not do that again. Come home earlier.
i have a boy best friend. i could kind of feel where your wife is coming from, but to handle all of this i think your wife should spend time with your best friend and get to know your best friend, because if all four of you guys become close i feel none of this would bother anyone. she neeeds to know your best friends intentions, trusting is hard for a lot of females. and also she may feel that you're putting more time intoyour best friend. so i think if all four of you guys get out and get to know and trust each other more, that will help. But if she still feels the same way then you're going to have to put your wife of course, first.
As a girl that has a boyfriend with many female friends the best advice I can give is to reassure her of your friendship. Perhaps let her spend time with your friend to get to know her better. It may help build up some trust.