Let's say you met someone online and you've been talking for about a month. The chemistry is amazing, their personality is great and you can talk to them about anything. You're super attracted to them already simply because they're an overall cool person. Let's say you finally get to meet them in person and they aren't at all what you expected physically. Maybe they're a bit overweight, I'm not talking 500 pounds but just a bit on the chubbier side. Would you still date them or would their weight be a turn off? Is weight a factor?
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Yes. Weight is definitely a factor. Don't catfish that shit. It depends on how much overweight. How much it changes your appearance. If they aren't "at all" what I expected, then I would be pissed. That's false advertising. I would just turn around and go home. There have been instances where a man has beaten the shit out of a catfish. There was one in China where this man spent like $2,000 on plane tickets to go see this woman he was talking to online, and she was basically just completely different from her profile picture, and he beat her up. People want to rationalize it like, "Oh, well, as long as we click that's all that matters, and they can look past this or that lie." But as sad as the world is sometimes, you can't ignore that appearance is a very big factor in who people choose to be with.
As you put it, 'a bit chubbier', I wouldn't think it would be as much of a big deal. To me, it would really depend on how much it shifted her appearance. To me personally, it would be a bigger deal than most guys, I think; because fat is my biggest turn off. I've tried dating a few girls who were just a tad overweight, and I couldn't do it. I just wasn't attracted to them. If it shifts their figure noticeably, I can't do it. A bit of fat isn't a big deal--to me--and women naturally have a higher body fat percentage to prepare for childbearing, but if it warps their figure or face, I think that's when it becomes an issue.
So, to anyone who would do that, I would say let them know. If you can really talk to them about anything, then I think this is something you should talk to them about. I know it's scary and you don't want to lose this great person, but ultimately, if you really click that much, it shouldn't be an issue.3