Most men find their partners when they are still in school or University, because that's when they have access to plenty of single, available girls. Once they are out of college, these are the issues:-
1) Most women aren't single 2) Those who are single, are usually not available because they’re either hurting about their ex, or already have someone else in mind. 3) The very few women who are single and available, are way too picky so they would never give these men a chance.
I find myself in such a situation now. To even have a chance, I should be able to find a woman who is single AND is not thinking about her ex AND isn't crushing on anyone else AND is willing to give me a chance.
So many things have to fall into place, just to be able to get a date. And then, there is the usual effort needed to keep her interested and stuff. How do I go about accomplishing this? And is it even worth all the efforts, considering that I may invest so much time and still be left with nothing?
Please don't suggest bars are nightclubs. These are the venues people go for hookups and one night stands, and not to find dates.
Join a sports club that has both men and women. I used to be a member of a rowing club, most people in the club were age 25-35 and lots of couples were formed between people from the men's and women's teams. I think once you're out of university, a shared hobby is the best way to meet members of the opposite sex in a neutral setting where you can just get to know people first without the pressure of it being a date.
I often wonder that myself. A lot of people meet at work, but my work place is 85% male, my work group of 20 people has exactly one female (married), and this little interaction with people outside my group. If I do go to a bar or night club - 70% male, and the females are either with a sig other or with a big group of friends.
Well I'm still in college but I also hang out at my Orthodox Church a lot and for that matter attend as many ethnic Russian/Greek festivals as possible in order to potentially meet a spouse. You need to find your niche--be it a club, religious thing, activity, etc, and do everything associated with it in hopes of meeting someone.
I hear ya. This part of the reason I'm interested in joining a gym. Bars are not a good place to meet women and it seems like online dating isn't either. I've gotten hookups and flings out of online dating but nothing long term. The only girls that wanted to date me long term were ones I didn't like back and the closest I thought to getting a relationship, where the interest seemed mutual, I got rebounded.
It's tough. You gotta keep your options open which can be overwhelming in itself.